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Help please! - October 16th 2011, 11:33 PM

So me an my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 monks but knew each other for a few years. He is my aunt and uncles neighbor so I've been staying there a lot. They're really religious and believe in purity even though my uncle was younger than me when he did have sex but stopped for like seven years till he married. Well they found out and made me feel guilty like I cry a lot bec of what they said to me. They brought god into it and told me all this stuff now they're limiting my time too see him when I'm there and the weekends I usually goto see him so I stay there I just I know it's my choice and my life ans they're not my parents so why do they do this? And I just need some advice. So anyone? Please
   
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Re: Help please! - October 17th 2011, 12:04 AM

Rach, they 'Do this' b/c by staying at their house to conduct a relationship with this guy, you've brought them into it. Getting caught, especially by people who you know wouldn't at all approve further adds to your misery here. By going over there you unwittingly agreed to their rules.

I know love and lust are strong feelings, but by making the choice to respond to them you also invited the response, again, this was pretty predictable. It's a sad truth that minors don't have the freedoms that adults do, but that doesn't take away from the fact that by intentionally doing things while basically being under their charge/care, you also invited these repercussions.

At this point, I think it best to back down a bit and lay low with this guy while you're there, and show some awareness with them that doing this while you were under their (supposed) supervision was bad judgment. That has nothing to do with your rights or freedoms, btw. Regardless of how entitled you feel to do what you want with yourself or someone else, you really don't have that right if you agree to be under the supervision of someone else who doesn't approve.


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Re: Help please! - October 17th 2011, 03:41 AM

I moved this over to Friends and Family because you are asking advice regarding your aunt and uncle rather then your relationship with your boyfriend.

They may not be your parents, but they are still family. You are their siblings child, so of course they are going to care about you. I agree, they shouldn't be pushing their beliefs on you. However, since you are staying at their house you will have to follow their rules. Maybe see if you can make a deal about how much time you get to see him?


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