"What do you want to do?"

[acting101]

This question drives me crazy. Lately, I've been getting it a lot from one of my guy friends- he comes down sometimes on weekends from university. Except whenever we do see each other, he always asks me what I want to do. And I don't know. I just want to hang out with him, but that isn't usually a good enough answer for him. He claims that I'm super-shy and never contribute much to conversation, but that's just how I am. We live in a small town, so there's not much we can do.

Any advice on what to say to him?

[youbetheanchor]

Ask him to give you options and you'll pick one. Over time you'll get better at being spontaneous.

[Heartlines.]

To me, you are who you are and that should be enough for him. Try telling him that you're shy and quiet because that's who you are. And that you genuinely just want to hang out with him.

Another thing you could do is have him list out options and you pick one. I usually do that with my boyfriend. Sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes we find something to do, where as other times we just sit on our couch and just talk. Which, is fun for me! I like relaxing activities.

Also, if you know he going to come over. Plan ahead. Think of all the things you could possibly do, according to budget, transportation, time, etc. Make a list, and do them. Also research fun things to do on the internet for cheap. It might take a little time, but that could really help!