Miscommunication

[Complete Love.]

Ok so I Don't seem to understand my parents, brothers, or sisters. They always tell me I need to calm down. There clearly must be something wrong with me. I am going through a lot of garbage right now and it's really hard for me, so I think what might be happening is that I'm replacing my inside anger about all that garbage (like SH, dealing with a death of faimly member, and and ED) on them. The thing is I don't notice I'm being rude to them until after I finished talking, it's not that I plan to be rude it just happens. Any advice?

[Seebeyondthesurface]

I do this too sometimes. I can put my anger from my bad day out on them. I just try to think before I say something. Sometimes I just listen to myself breath until I calm down. But maybe you can even just talk to them about whats wrong. I know it always helps me to vent about everything. Im here if you need anything!

[Heartlines.]

I think you need to talk to your family. Ask them what they mean when they tell you to calm down. Ask for examples of things that you do. That could make you more aware of your actions. Explain to you parents about what's going on in your life. With the self harm, and the eating issues. I know how hard it can be to talk to your family about something that has been your secret for so long. But both an ED and SH can potentially kill you. I'm not saying that to scare you, I'm saying that because it's true. Obviously these things are effecting your daily life, and your relationship with your family. Just open up to them. Write them a letter if you can. Writing letters always worked better for me. Let them help you. Let them support you. They probably notice that you're going through things anyways. <3