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Friend advice? - November 9th 2011, 07:41 PM

So I'm usually one to try to find possitive things in everything.
However now I have a concussion that is not improving very much, I've lost a lot of my sight because of it, and other issues including a bunch of family drama that leaves me in tears every. night.

My one friend, so far, EVERYTHING I have told her she either relates it to her and how it's not a big deal, she basically says the doctor is wrong and I'm overreacting, and she finds the negative in EVERYTHING I say to her. It's driving me mad.

She's fighting with me about it, and I really don't have the energy for it. I don't know how to handle this. I haven't been in school for 8 weeks, and I may not be able to return all year, however I'm really hoping that is not the case.

And she just gets on her case about how wonderful her bf and she's so annoyed with me about not liking him.. Sorry I don't like a guy who randomly starts attacking me over FB..

What do I do?


   
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Re: Friend advice? - November 11th 2011, 04:19 PM

Talk to her. Tell her that you don't need the negativity. Let her know exactly what you told us. Maybe you should distance yourself from her for a bit. You're recovering, and her saying all this is just having a negative affect. It's hard to be positive when you have Negative Nancy for a friend. I would say keep surrounding yourself with the positives, and not the negatives. And if that means not talking to this friend for a while, then do that. Do what you need to do. I hope your recovery goes well, and you start feeling better soon!<3


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Re: Friend advice? - November 11th 2011, 05:17 PM

You should be honest with her and talk to her. Your friend should not be talking non stop about her boyfriend when her friend is in pain and wants somebody to listen to her. You need to tell her how you feel. It is the only way things will get better.
   
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Re: Friend advice? - November 11th 2011, 06:53 PM

You know the phrase "communication is key"? It's not just in romantic relationships. Communication is important in ALL relationships, especially friendships. You should talk to her and explain to her how you're feeling. Explain to her that negativity is not good for your recovery. That you need to have positivity around you. Hopefully she'll understand but if not, you should distance yourself from her until you're feeling better. With that said, I hope things work out and I hope you feel better soon! Take care. x
   
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Re: Friend advice? - November 11th 2011, 08:40 PM

Thanks guys.

I talked to her... Yeah, she pointed fingers about how Im so selfish, jealous because I don't have a bf, and that I'm starting all these fights.

I certainly got my distance, however the drama she always causes when stuff like this happens was not needed.

Thanks guys. It was probably best


   
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Re: Friend advice? - November 11th 2011, 09:08 PM

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I talked to her... Yeah, she pointed fingers about how Im so selfish, jealous because I don't have a bf, and that I'm starting all these fights.
You're not any of those things. You finally stood up for yourself in a sense and I'm proud of you for doing that. Enjoy being drama free and focus on yourself. You're right, it's probably what's best. x
   
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