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Drama - November 16th 2011, 04:16 AM

Okay, so I'm just going to give you this in a nutshell, and if anyone wants the full-extended version, then just ask and I'll send it to you. :/ I don't want to make this super long.

Basically I have this friend who is very clingy and prone to emotional break downs. She freaked when her mom got arrested and pretty much thought the entire world was crashing. She deeply imposed on me and basically made it sound like "if you don't take me home with you, then I'll probably do something drastic." granted she got a hold of herself. But I was shaken by the event and have since been trying to avoid her (to a degree). I did tell her that I was upset about her behavior (don't judge this yet. Message me and I'll tell you all that happened). Regardless, her mom got out of jail and everything was okay. I didn't hang out with her much after that. Tbh I got really annoyed with her. She was always overbearing to a degree- so I could only be with her in small increments. But I was afraid of having her shit dumped on me again, so I wanted to keep my distance. Well last Thursday I got a phone call from her and apparently she was in a behavioral clinic, because she tried jumping in front of a bus. :/ She's always been unstable, but we never thought she'd actually try anything.

That's one of my stresses.

Another stress is one of my other friends is pregnant. Now I'm uber excited! But it's just some of the drama I've listened to her go through. I don't mind listening to her problems, because they aren't life threatening and don't make me physically ill like the prior. But I think I got a little too involved in her problems there for a little bit. So I just need to back out some. Kinda made her boyfriend think I hate him. Which is totally not the case. Regardless, they did settle things out and things are sort of calm again. I guess I'm just a little shaken from it.

Also had a guy who liked me for a while, but then abruptly stopped wanting to be my friend due to something about rejection, sexual temptation and me being attractive. I told the guy I wasn't interested and we could still be friends. He was fine with that. But then he abruptly said he was going to shut down and drop all of his friends and start fresh next semester. Soooo yeah.

This has been my drama in the past week. JUST this past week. It's so sad it's almost funny.

Just need a listening ear and some advice from ppl who aren't my close friends or family. Thanks!


   
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Re: Drama - November 23rd 2011, 12:12 PM

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Basically I have this friend who is very clingy and prone to emotional break downs. She freaked when her mom got arrested and pretty much thought the entire world was crashing. She deeply imposed on me and basically made it sound like "if you don't take me home with you, then I'll probably do something drastic." granted she got a hold of herself. But I was shaken by the event and have since been trying to avoid her (to a degree). I did tell her that I was upset about her behavior (don't judge this yet. Message me and I'll tell you all that happened). Regardless, her mom got out of jail and everything was okay. I didn't hang out with her much after that. Tbh I got really annoyed with her. She was always overbearing to a degree- so I could only be with her in small increments. But I was afraid of having her shit dumped on me again, so I wanted to keep my distance. Well last Thursday I got a phone call from her and apparently she was in a behavioral clinic, because she tried jumping in front of a bus. :/ She's always been unstable, but we never thought she'd actually try anything.
I think she is being very clingy because she wants some attention due to her mother being in jail. That must be very hard for her to handle, which could have caused the depression that resorted to her trying to jump in front of a bus. Instead of shutting her out, it could really help her if you let her rant to you for a bit. It seems to me that she could really use a friend.

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Another stress is one of my other friends is pregnant. Now I'm uber excited! But it's just some of the drama I've listened to her go through. I don't mind listening to her problems, because they aren't life threatening and don't make me physically ill like the prior. But I think I got a little too involved in her problems there for a little bit. So I just need to back out some. Kinda made her boyfriend think I hate him. Which is totally not the case. Regardless, they did settle things out and things are sort of calm again. I guess I'm just a little shaken from it.
I'm a little confused about whats stressing you out here. I'm sure its very surprising to hear that she's pregnant, however. I would try not to get too involved though, if she needs you I'm sure she will let you know. Maybe talk to her boyfriend and let him know that you don't hate him?

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Also had a guy who liked me for a while, but then abruptly stopped wanting to be my friend due to something about rejection, sexual temptation and me being attractive. I told the guy I wasn't interested and we could still be friends. He was fine with that. But then he abruptly said he was going to shut down and drop all of his friends and start fresh next semester. Soooo yeah.
Rejection is tough to deal with. He probably figured if he stopped talking and seeing you, it would help him get over you, which is true. I guess he's just doing what he needs to do which is good. It can be tough to just be friends with someone that you are attracted to. Don't feel too bad about it though, you did the right thing by not leading him on.


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Re: Drama - November 24th 2011, 03:32 PM

Well I'm not gonna talk about that girl I'm just gonna say that the more experiences you have the more wiser you get and the smarter you become and as for details I mostly agree with the post above. Hope this helped.
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Re: Drama - November 24th 2011, 04:02 PM

I agree, the more experience the more you know how to handle it the next time. As much as you wish there won't be any drama there still will be that one person who will start it over some small thing. Just remember to stay strong!


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