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I'm The Problem. - November 27th 2011, 08:36 PM

Okay, I'm not really sure if anything can be done to fix this, but I'm gonna put it out there. I have a tendency of changing for my friends. None of them have ever asked me to do it. I just do it because I'm scared of losing them. I'm used to being hurt by people, so if I find someone that seems to genuinely care about me, I cling to them and try to change my ways to make sure they don't hate me. Usually, I end up breaking off the friendship at some point. It's usually because I start to think I'm getting annoying and I'm not worthy of their friendship. If it's not that, it's because I get paranoid that they don't really like me and they just pity me. It's ridiculous and I hate it.

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Re: I'm The Problem. - November 28th 2011, 07:23 AM

Believe it or not, alot of teens have done this (even without them realizing it).

I personally have done it all through my Jr High and my freshman year. Eventually I just got fed up with it. I lost about 10 friends, but once I sticked to once personality, and one way, I gained much much more. My confidence has gone up, and I feel alot happier not that when I was changing myself. Its not something you can do over night, I actually did it over the summer and came back into my Sophmore year kinda new. I have sense then build so many new friendships over the last year and a half. You will always loose friends, but once you stick to one way, usally the friendships you build last alot longer.

I hope eventually that you realize you are doing yourself more harm that good by changing yourself.

I hope you know that you deserve it all. The best, the most honest, the most beautiful purest love in the world. Not only to be loved by others, but to be loved by yourself. To look in the mirror and think "Yes, I'm exactly who I want to be". To speak up and be proud of yourself. To be brave and open. You deserve the nicest and most caring people to walk into your life. You deserve it all, you know. The whole world...
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