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What Do I do? - December 1st 2011, 02:17 AM

Well, I have a... person in my life. Let's call him Jordan. He and I have a history of fighting and arguing. I'm a freshman now and he's a sophomore. When I was in 7th and he in 8th, we had a huge fight. We stopped talking for two years.
Recently we've gotten into the same damn fight. Someone told him (or he found out on his own) that I was still cutting- not talking to me for 3 1/2 weeks and counting.
Do I talk to him? What do I do?
   
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Re: What Do I do? - December 1st 2011, 02:21 AM

Sometimes when we get so mad or upset about the actions of another, we find it best to ignore that person. I recently did that when I found out my cousin was having sex. I think that he might be upset about finding that out, and the way he figures he can 'punish' you for it is by not talking to you.

I would try to talk to him (in person will be the best thing to do). If he still ignores you then just move on and forget him; he'll get over it eventually.


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Re: What Do I do? - December 2nd 2011, 01:17 AM

:/ I don't wanna talk to him because I'm scared of what he'll say. He'll get mad- I know he will. But he needs to know.
   
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Re: What Do I do? - December 3rd 2011, 12:51 AM

Weigh the pros and cons. If you talk to him, you're pretty sure he'll just get mad, but you'll feel better for having told him what you think. If you don't talk to him, you'll avoid confrontation, but the situation may remain unresolved. Which scenario is more appealing to you? If neither one is to your liking, try to come up with another plan of attack. Otherwise, go with whichever situation will make you feel better in the long run.






   
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Re: What Do I do? - December 4th 2011, 06:17 PM

I've gotten so close to talking to him. and then I got cold feet and was like... uh... no, it's not the right time, he'll be like, why is she bringing this up to me now. And so it's been about five days and i haven't even tried yet. -_-
   
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Re: What Do I do? - December 4th 2011, 07:55 PM

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I've gotten so close to talking to him. and then I got cold feet and was like... uh... no, it's not the right time, he'll be like, why is she bringing this up to me now. And so it's been about five days and i haven't even tried yet. -_-
Dont worry about what he will think, you need to do this for yourself. You need to talk to him so that you can get this heavy weight off your shoulders. Sometimes you cant think about what others say, want, or wish for - you just need to worry and deal with what you want, and need to do.


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Re: What Do I do? - December 6th 2011, 04:34 PM

Hey there,

Are you wanting to re-kindle the friendship with him? Talk to him. If you think the outcome will be good. Do you think you could get him to support you through this rough time, rather than yell at you? If you have a friendship based on nothing but fighting, I wouldn't talk to him. Him being mad and yelling at you, you don't need the added stress. Right? I would do what Robin suggested, and outweigh the pros and cons. If the pros outweigh the cons, then talk to him. You have to decide if it's worth it. Anyone you tell about the cutting should be a support to you. And nothing else. I hope everything works out. Let us know what happens.


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Re: What Do I do? - December 12th 2011, 03:33 AM

Well, I haven't talked to him.
On Friday the 3rd, my two friends were effin around with me and were 'bullying' me (I love them - they really were just messin) and a friend of mine called me over to him, put my head on his shoulder so he could tell me something. 'Jordan' was apparently watching me, and later asked one of my friends if I had been crying. She said no, and he said, oh. It looked like she was. She asked if he was watching me, and he said, well, kind of...

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No matter how much I hate her, you shouldn't make her cry.

   
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