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i dont feel popular enough - December 3rd 2011, 06:48 PM

I have my friends but i don't feel like i am close with a lot of people...i think a lot of people know who i am but thats about it. how can i feel like im popular and liked enough by my peers...facebook is stressing me out because i have less activity than most of my facebook friends and i wish there was something i could do to change that.
   
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Re: i dont feel popular enough - December 4th 2011, 05:06 AM

Ah, been there done that. Dont compare yourself to things online! see thats why I use twitter, because no one can like your status, or comments on it. Everyone is a equal and every is treated the same. On facebook everything is meausred by likes and comments on their posts. Dont follow that stuff! Not worth it!

As far as the friends things, maybe you should just build into the friendships you have already. Start hanging out with some people after school - this usally leads to alot of stronger friendships.

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Re: i dont feel popular enough - December 4th 2011, 06:44 PM

I've been there too. If Facebook is stressing you out, maybe take a break from it for awhile. Everyone cares to some degree what other people think of them, that's human nature, but it is possible to care too much. Being "popular enough" isn't really what's important, it's more important to be yourself and have close friends, even if it's just a few, and don't worry so much about what other people think of you.


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Re: i dont feel popular enough - December 6th 2011, 04:39 PM

Don't try to be popular. Try to make the most friends and connections that you can. So, the friends that you have now, try to get closer to them by opening up a bit. Close relationships come from people indulging in their personal lives a bit. As far as facebook goes, who cares if you don't have as much activity on there? If you want to be more active, then do it. Post on peoples' walls, post statuses, etc. Talk to people. Form a friendship with them. the more people you get to know, the more potential for close relationships you have. And you're not going to be friends with everyone that you meet, but some, the friendship will stick. Point is, don't try to be popular for the sake of being popular. Just try to make friends and have fun.


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Re: i dont feel popular enough - December 6th 2011, 04:48 PM

I was never the most poplar girl in school. Not going to be Prom Queen. But I had my friends that I hung out with. I had a few best friends that stabbed me in the back and to this day I have had only one best friend since then.

I always found that all the popular people never really wanted to hang out with me. I always felt it was because I didn't have as much money as they did. Like we were on different social grounds.
they might not hae been true but it was how I felt.

It used to bother me a lot. I still don't have a lot of facebook "action" so to speak. But I don't need twelve thousand friends. I have my small amount few that i know would be there for me.

And that's what a lot of people don't realize. A friend is someone that if you call them a 2 in the am they will be there. I know a ton of people I thought were my friend until I needed something. They were only my friend if they needed something or if it was just to hang out. As soon as it became time for the to be a friend they were gone.

I had a bus driver that I was really good friends with. She used to talk a bunch about her daughter that I had never met. Well after she moved bus routes, I added her on facebook and he daughter. Her daughter lives miles away from me, but she is a close friend of mine. She needed money one time to pay for something for a job interview. She never asked me. just made a post on faceboook. I sent her the money with out hesitation. Never gave her a date to pay me back. She has a son she is raising b y herslef and I know how much she needed the job. THAT is a true friend. And if you are going to surround yourself with fake friends why even have them? They are just imposters.
   
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Re: i dont feel popular enough - December 6th 2011, 07:20 PM

oh facebook... aha I'd be a hypocrite to say that I've never though of it like that. I still sometimes feel invisible even on facebook. But as much as I use to sit here and wonder if people would even notice my statuses Ive realized that the people who matter most do notice and if my post gets a million likes it really doesn't mean anything necessarily. I did a cleaning out of my friends list the other night actually and I bet you any money most of them won't even notice I deleted them. Send messages and posts to those friends you are closest with and try and hangout with them offline too. Forget about the number of friends or how often they comment or like your status. When there comes a time when you need a friend to call or a shoulder to lean on...how many of those friends would pick up the phone? I know theres only a few that would from my list and I try to stay close with them and forget about the rest of the people's drama.
   
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Re: i dont feel popular enough - December 16th 2011, 09:37 AM

Yeah I feel invisible 2. All my close friends have paired up with another friend and became closer to them instead.
   
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