How do I get my parents to pay more attention to me

[RebelGirl]

Oo so lately I have been getting bad grades to get attention from my parents! I have too younger sisters and they seem to always favor them with everything! I'm in high school now and this is where I need to start being serious about everything but I just can't concentrate thinking about it!!
Someone please give me any advice!?:/

[Incompris]

Ask your parents to do stuff with you. Just straight out tell them you feel left out or ignored, and you want to spend time alone with them. I'm sure they will be thrilled that their teenage daughter actually wants them around. Most teenagers want their parents to back off at your age. You can suggest "daddy/daughter, mother/daughter" days, where you go get lunch with one of them, see a movie, go shopping, or something once a month or however often you want.

[RebelGirl]

Thanks ((:

[Chris.]

I agree. and try to remember, that in most cases, doing things for attention will ONLY gain you negative attention, not positive.

Why hurt yourself by going poorly in school? Its better to go home real quick from school and then clean the house up and do some choirs!

Both of those scenarios have the same outcome, attention. But Doing bad in school is negative attention. Doing choirs without being told to is Positive attention. See the difference?


Best wishes,
Chris

[Heartlines.]

The best way to get attention from you parents, would be to straight up tell them that you want their attention. Be specific in the way that you want it. Ask them to do stuff with you. Ask them to watch movies with you. If you want them to notice something, tell them what it is. Believe it or not, parents aren't mind readers. You have to be specific with them. So failing purposely, is not only going to hinder your ability to graduate, it's just going to make them mad at you. I would just flat out tell them that you need their attention, rather than risk your grades. It's just not worth it. Basically the only advice I have is to be honest with them. They can't know what you want, unless you tell them <3

Take care.

[lacylovebugg]

Being in high school, your parents subonciously expect you to need less attention. They see you are growing up. Younger kids have a younger state of mind and they need the attention to develop and mature. However, you still need some attention as you grow older, just not as much.

Getting bad grades does NOT help. Unless you just enjoy being grounded. All it does is hurt your educational future. If you do bad in high school, college is ten times harder. And you may not plan to go to college right after high school, but I've found that quite a few people have decided to go to college within the next 5 years after graduating high school. Our crappy economy is not any place you want to be stuck in without a degree in SOMETHING. It helps.


Try sitting down with your parents and tell them that you just want their support. I'm sure they support you, they just not not show it that well. My sister (when I lived with her) would write on my report card how good of a job I was doing and how proud she was of me. Which she knew meant a lot to me because all I ever wanted was our mom to say she was proud of me and everything I did.

If you are truly struggling in a subject, ask for help. That is what the teachers are there for. It's what they get paid to do.


If you need anything feel free to PM me (:

Hope this helps and good luck (: