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Friends grandmother - December 18th 2011, 11:03 PM

Two weeks ago my friends grandmother died. I found out through a fb status nd just wrote aww thats sad (yea I shoulda wrote more).
I text her and our other friend yesterday saying I'm coming home from college for winter break and when I got home I texted them again and got nothing back.
today I was getting worried so I call the first friend and she didn't answer.
a few mins later she texts me saying how this girl thats a family friend came home from college to go to the funeral and the other friend went and it was on her bday
nd she was like I'm hurt cuz ur my best friend nd u didn't say anything to me except what u wrote on fb.
so I wrote to her and was like I'm sorry ur right I shoulda said something more but I was scared nd didn't no what to say. I never had a friend have someone pass away before.
I didn't ttell her this but I am kind of mad I found out through a Facebook status. I don't want to make this about me though. But if were best friends why didn't you text me and tell me. Everyone is telling me this friend isn't a good friend to me for other reasons cause things like this in the past. But I have no other friends when I am at home. How long should I wait to talk to this friend again? I let her know I was sorry and should have said more and she writes back I just thought we were bests friends nd you shoulda said more. Should I bring a card to her tomorrow? I feel like a horrible friend . Its been bugging me all day.
   
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Re: Friends grandmother - December 19th 2011, 12:04 AM

I think that a card would be a good idea. I would alos explain that you are there for her and that even though you may have not said it, you are sorry for the loss and you love her.

Your friend is going through alot, and you need to understand that... Comforting her will be the best - I think eventually she will get over what you did say / do and everything will be back to normal.

I hope that everything works out for the best.

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Re: Friends grandmother - December 19th 2011, 12:58 AM

I agree with what Chris said. Also, it would help to explain that you aren't sure exactly what to do, because you haven't had a friend that has lost anyone. Let her know that you're there for her, whatever she needs you to do. She's going through a lot, so even little things can be harrowing. It'll get back to normal eventually.



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