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This isn't going to end well. - December 22nd 2011, 05:38 AM

My best friend is asking for advice about a guy. If I give her the advice she wants to hear, then it would hurt me, but if I give her the advice I want to give her, it will hurt her. I don't know what to do here.
   
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Re: This isn't going to end well. - December 22nd 2011, 05:51 PM

If you were in this situation would you want someone to tell you what you wanted to hear? Or would you rather them tell you how they feel? Personally, I would want them to tell me how they felt. It would rather hear the truth and be upset rather than hear a lie and get hurt.

And usually when people ask for advice they already know the answer. They just need others to help them along the way. So tell her the advice you want to give her. She'll be thankful for it later even if she might get upset now.


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Re: This isn't going to end well. - December 22nd 2011, 07:15 PM

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If you were in this situation would you want someone to tell you what you wanted to hear? Or would you rather them tell you how they feel? Personally, I would want them to tell me how they felt. It would rather hear the truth and be upset rather than hear a lie and get hurt.

And usually when people ask for advice they already know the answer. They just need others to help them along the way. So tell her the advice you want to give her. She'll be thankful for it later even if she might get upset now.
Thanks. That makes sense. I tried to tell her the truth, but she didn't really want it. She accepted what I had to say, but she's still thinking about what she wanted to know before.. It's hard to be here for her when I don't have a clue what she's doing.
   
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Re: This isn't going to end well. - December 22nd 2011, 09:09 PM

Yeah, I'm sorry to hear about this - but you did do the right thing by telling her even though it may hurt her.

All you can do as a friend, is tell her that you are there if she needs you, and then stand by her side through it. Sometimes we have no clue what are friends are thinking or doing, but if we do care about them, we stick with them through the fog and we come out together.


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