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was that a bad thing to do? - March 26th 2009, 04:15 AM

Okay so maybe I'm overreacting about this, that's why I want to get some second opinions.

The other night I got really drunk at a concert and started saying some really funny yet terribly embarrassing things to the singer's friends. My friend, who was with me at the time, started the conversation with me, and then I guess when she realized I was saying some stupid stuff, walked away, and exited the conversation only to let me dig much deeper and get into a little trouble. She just stood back and let it happen... pretending like she didn't know me.

When we finally walked away, I remember, in my drunken state, saying that I regretted what I had said and I couldn't believe what happened. I started to cry, and she said, "Well, if I would have tried to stop you, you wouldn't have let me stop you anyway." Ummm...? Is she a mind reader, predictor of the future? To me, it seems like she was super embarassed by me and didn't want to be involved, and didn't care enough about me to just let me keep going.

I know I was obviously wrong in letting myself get to that point, and it was me saying the things, but idk. I kinda feel betrayed and hurt by her... is this unwarranted?
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Re: was that a bad thing to do? - March 26th 2009, 05:51 AM

Id say personnely i would of tried t stop you then if you'd not listened fair enough but id of at least tried :S

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Re: was that a bad thing to do? - March 26th 2009, 06:35 PM

I think that your friend just didn't know what to say or how to stop you. Maybe she thought that it would cause you further embarrassment if she did. I think that if she knew that you would regret what you said, then she could have said something. Overall, this isn't really her job, though. Although she can be supportive of you, it isn't her place to fix what you said or stop you from saying things. If you are worried about what you'll say in front of people, then I think it's best that you watch how much you drink next time.

Don't feel betrayed by her actions. She probably just didn't know what to do, so she retreated further back. Next time maybe you should give her a heads up and say that if she thinks you're saying something you shouldn't to try and pull you out of it. Hopefully she'll do her best.

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Re: was that a bad thing to do? - March 30th 2009, 11:37 PM

in my opinion your right, i do agree that she should have been a better friend
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Re: was that a bad thing to do? - April 5th 2009, 06:48 PM

i think you should have tried to stop being drunk is never good and you can make really bad decision when your drunk
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