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Exclamation family trouble - January 2nd 2012, 02:06 PM

Im the oldest in the house. And everything seems to be on my shoulders. Last year i told my guidance counselor everything that happen at home. Ever since then, i have had a bigger burden to carry. Before it was just cleaning, cooking, and taking care of my mother. Now its like i have to do more. My Two little sisters do nothing, besides make everything messy again and order me around. Im always cleaning after them. Three days ago, for example, i was swiping the floor and my sisters were both sitting on the floor playing the wii. I walking into my kitchen to clean and when i go back to the living room, everything is a mess. The floor was covered in papers that were cut up. My sisters were just sitting there and they turned and said to serve them food. Everything good i do, my sister destroy. And then i am framed for everything too. My parents practicaly hate me because of when i talked to the counselor. I can barely talk to them without getting in trouble for something.
   
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Re: family trouble - January 2nd 2012, 11:08 PM

Aw, you poor dear! My mum did the same to me when I saw the school counsellor :/
Why are you looking after your mum so? Have you tried talking to her in a profressional way and request that she come to a better solution rather than you having to do everything? If all that fails, I suggest go back to the counsellor and enquire more into their policies on confidentiality. Coz unless you're in risk of danger your mum shouldn't be finding out about it. What advice did the counsellor give you?
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Re: family trouble - January 2nd 2012, 11:38 PM

Oh that's not good. You're not getting the recognition
that you deserve for trying to keep the house in order.
Your mom shouldn't punish you or hold it against you,
because you were really just looking out for your family.

But you are only 15 and shouldn't have to worry about it
so much. Don't let your little sisters boss you around. Do
your part in helping to keep the house clean and helping
with the cooking. Then, do your homework and try to relax.
Your parents will have to worry about the kids. If your parents
try to punish you or get angry for not doing whatever they
want, remind them that not everything is /your responsibility!


So yeah, just try to worry a little more about yourself. I don't mean
to do nothing and ignore them, but reward yourself with the
satisfaction that you do the best you can. I hope I helped!
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Re: family trouble - January 3rd 2012, 12:10 AM

Thanks.

Amy, my mom has artheritic and can barely move so i have to help her. My father is barely home and when he is its contant yelling at me.

Steven, thanks. I try reminding them that not everything should be on my shoulders but they start comparing me to my friends.
   
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Re: family trouble - January 3rd 2012, 12:32 AM

If they want you to be like your friends,
they should just go and adopt them -_-
Umm I would say to also remind your
Dad that you are trying your best, and
that you wish you could do more but
that it really stresses you. Just try
to constantly remind them how you feel?
I don't know how I would tell my mother
that keeping the house maintained and
having to take care of her is stressful if
she had a disability either, so i imagine its hard.
Your dad probably has a hard time at work.
You should try and ask him if anything is wrong at
work, because you are worried for him and
don't like to see him coming home and yelling at you.
That just what I would do Again, best of luck!
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Re: family trouble - January 3rd 2012, 01:23 AM

I'm sorry, it sounds like a really tough situation. Actually, pretty similar to my family. I know it's really stressful to be taking care of everyone else and to feel like it's your burden to take care of, but you should realize that it's not--it's your parents' responsibility, as Steven said. You are going above and beyond by taking care of the house, your mother, and your sisters, and you should be proud of yourself for taking on those responsibilities and for being such a caring person that you don't even see it as an option to let things slide. But don't forget to take care of yourself, too! You deserve to relax and enjoy being fifteen, and you deserve to talk to your counselor if it makes you feel better. Your parents shouldn't have to know that you're talking to him, and you should check about the confidentiality of it, like Amy said.
I know your life's really stressful right now, but hang in there. Sooner or later, something's going to change for the better--it always does. Trust me.
PM me if you ever need to talk or just rant, but please consider talking to your counselor again. You shouldn't have to give that up because of your parents--you give up too much for them already.
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Re: family trouble - January 5th 2012, 12:06 AM

Thank guy for the advice.


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Re: family trouble - January 5th 2012, 01:29 AM

Your welcome! Let us know what you decide to do and how it goes.


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