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What should I do about my "friend"? - March 26th 2009, 10:46 PM

I love my friends very much and depend on them a lot, but for some of them, I feel like they're just my "friends" or talk to me because I'm in that group of friends. Recently, I've just been getting fed up with one of them. She is really rude most of the time and will tell me things, like "Suck it up!" when I make a slight whine noise or "Will you just please stop freaking out for a minute? It's really bringing me down." I don't really talk to her much..or really at all, but even if I don't talk to her, she still says these things to me. I've just gotten so fed up that I get extremely angry inside whenever she says something rude or mean to me and I don't know what to do anymore because I feel like if I tell her about it she just won't really care or talk about all the things I do wrong or do that annoy her.
   
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Re: What should I do about my "friend"? - March 27th 2009, 12:05 AM

Hahahahahaha, my clique has that girl, too!

It's really irritating. But in my group, the girl lies and is rude constantly; she literally stalks her ex boyfriend (his parents have 2 restraining orders against her and her family, etc.)

My advice is to just honestly shake it off. Tune her out. If you let it get to you, its like letting her win, and i doubt you want that! I think you should just turn away and talk to another friend if she's being bitchy. It's a teenage girl thing, she's the classic drama queen. Don't let it bring you down, because thats exactly what she's trying to do. She's either jealous of you and your other friends, or thinks she's better than everyone else, neither of which are likable traits.

If you need anything, just let me know. I'm an expert on handling the drama. Its an art, and i'd love to teach ya. (:

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Re: What should I do about my "friend"? - March 27th 2009, 10:21 AM

Jess pretty much nailed it. Every clique has that one girl who's always out for the limelight and who's willing to go to pretty much any length to get it. And in each clique, there seems to be that girl that targets one of the others and uses that person as their own personal punch bag. It's a compliment to you, really, in the sense that some people feel the need to tear others down in order to build themselves up, and they generally target people who have something they want. Being said, I'm aware it's not at all pleasant for you.

My advice would be the same as what Jess said. Ignore her. And I'm aware that that's bloody hard, but in my opinion, and from my experiences, it's the only way she's ever going to learn that you're not going to tolerate this behaviour from her. To be quite honest, it's probably going to piss her off a good deal. You'll be taking away so much as her chance at obtaining power over you simply by not paying her any mind. Because of this, she may get worse, or she may back off, it really depends on who she is as a person, but I encourage you to stand your ground regardless of how she responds, as it will eventually die down.

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Re: What should I do about my "friend"? - March 27th 2009, 10:48 AM

I agree that in every group of friends there is in fact that girl, the one who always wants to be center of attention no matter what it takes so you should just ignore her because then she won't be getting what she wants and she'll probably give up. If you let her get to you and you let that show then she'll do it all the more because she's getting the reaction she wants which gives her reason to carry on. So, just brush it off, ignore her and carry on as you would because at the end of the day, it's just only her mentioning it so it can't be that bad and every group of friends has one.
   
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Re: What should I do about my "friend"? - March 30th 2009, 10:08 PM

Thanks for your advice, everyone! I haven't seen her that much the past few days so I haven't been able to test the method out yet, but it really helped me out, and I'll try to just ignore her.
   
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