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Unhappy Trust Issues - January 8th 2012, 11:25 PM

It seems as though I have had trust issues since I was younger.
I really want to fix them.
I have had my trust betrayed by people that I never thought would do it.
I take a very long time to trust people and most of the time people I am taking the time to get to know so that I am able to trust just walk away on me because I take to long.
I am someone who suffers my problems by myself and doesn't really talk to people about them. I put a smile on when truly I'm crying on the inside.
Any advice on how I can possibly fix my trust issues and make it so that I trust the people that are trust worthy.


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Re: Trust Issues - January 9th 2012, 12:49 AM

Well see this an huge inner thing to accomplish - and please understand that it will take ALOT of time, and alot of paciance. And also remember - some people who you trust will still hurt you - no one is 100% trustworthy - and once you begin to trust people, you will get hurt, but as a person you cant shut down - you have to move on and begin trusting and loving enough though you got hurt. That is what makes you. Your experiances and all that you have gone through.

Look for the good. Having been hurt in the past people, tend to look for the bad in other people. Mistrust is hard to move past, but if you force yourself to find the good in people in general you will be able to find it in those closest to you. You need to communicate with those you love. Talk openly with the people you want to be close to and trust. Be honest with your loved ones and they will be honest with you. Say goodbye to fear. The fear of being wronged in the future facilitates the mistrust you feel. Ignore the fears you are feeling about being abandoned, cheated, lied to and having your trust shattered. In order to trust others, you must foster a relationship devoid of fears due to what you have gone through in the past. Love yourself. By looking into your reasons for not being able to trust others, and replaying the events that led to your mistrust, you will be able to triumph over letting these things happen again. Pay close attention to your memories and list the characteristics of those who hurt you. Instead of projecting these characteristics onto every new person in your life, you will be able to find the trust-worthy qualities in them instead. Take your time, and Trust one person at a time. If you have been severely hurt by someone's actions in the past, it can be hard to trust others. Force yourself to go beyond your comfort zone and choose one person at a time to put your trust in. They may not all deserve your trust, but to stop trusting is to stop living and loving. Nurture trust. Take pride in the fact that people in your life trust you. It is an honor, and should be treated as such. If you actively nurture the trust you have been given you will see that others will return it. Trust others, and they will trust you.




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