My parents don't understand ...

[hedgehog444]

For twelve years of my life, I absolutely loved it ... I loved school, I had a couple of close friends and got on well with my parents. But in the last four years things have changed so very much. I have been getting stressed very much and taking it out on my parents and they absolutely hate it. I suddenly got very lonely and had virtually no close friends, just a load of broad ones that I just hang around with at school. I knew something wasn't right, and then I found out I had symptoms of Asperges syndrome. I told my parents and everything, and they sort of ruled it out and just said I'm a complete idiot and all this rubbish ... and this has been happening for a year now. Since then I have been abused by my Dad as a result of taking huge stress out on him, and I have become depressed and started to self harm. But my parents have done nothing about it ... just nothing ... they say 'your not trying hard enough in life' and all this ... I have spoke to the doctors about it in November 2011 but had nothing back yet.
I want to start to change ... any advice on how I can get my parents to listen and be aware what's actually going on in my head?
thanks

[Chris.]

Well go to school, and tell your counselor about everything thats going on. If he/she believes that you in fact do need help with something, then tell them to make sure they call your parents. Tell your counselor that you want to seek professional help, feel better, stop self harming, and eventually be healthy and have a healthy lifestyle. If you tell him/her that, and then say that your parents wont listen to you so maybe its best that he/she calls, then I think things will start to go well.

Often, I see the problem: where a person wants help, but the parents either neglect it, or don't believe/listen to them. So now, force them to listen - Tell your counselor or any administration worker (Principal, Asst. Principal, etc).

If you need anymore guidance, feel free to PM me.



Best wishes,
Chris

[Shawn K.]

I agree with Chris. You need a third party to get involved. You seem to recognize that for some reason your stress level went up and it's caused some conflicts at home. You also realize that you've got some issues you want to deal with. Your parents need a non involved person to present your situation to them. They seem to be reacting to past conflicts, rather than your need for help.

Best of luck, and don't give up trying to get better. There's always someone here to talk to.

[RobbieFox]

I agree with the both of them. My parents never really listened to me when I had my problems with stress and stuff back at your age. But as I got older, I just had went to my mom (she listens better than my dad) and told her about everything that was bothering me. I broke down and I think that's what showed her that it's serious. If you've tired that, I suggest going to your school counslor which could make your life a lot better than having to deal with it alone.