i just want to be his friend

[JollyRancher.]

So ive been in a bad relationship with my friend. At least i still call him my friend. It started about last year around this time. We were talking through facebook and he said something that i took offensively. In the back of my mind i knew he was just joking around. But i didnt think about it and said not kind words. Later i told him i was sorry but he didnt forgive me. He didnt forgive me until one day i was bored in class and started singing. He sang along and it was like back in elementry school. Then days later he stopped talking to me again. Ever since then we have had a love/ hate relationship. One minute were geting along, the next were screaming at each other. And in those hate times, i go all out to stay friends with him. I just wish to find a way to just stay friends with him without the whole hate part.

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by JollyRancher.

So ive been in a bad relationship with my friend. At least i still call him my friend. It started about last year around this time. We were talking through facebook and he said something that i took offensively. In the back of my mind i knew he was just joking around. But i didnt think about it and said not kind words. Later i told him i was sorry but he didnt forgive me. He didnt forgive me until one day i was bored in class and started singing. He sang along and it was like back in elementry school. Then days later he stopped talking to me again. Ever since then we have had a love/ hate relationship. One minute were geting along, the next were screaming at each other. And in those hate times, i go all out to stay friends with him. I just wish to find a way to just stay friends with him without the whole hate part.

You made your attempt to apologize, you treat him civilly even when he's rude. Go on with the rest of your life, and if he wants to he'll catch up.

[Chris.]

I think you guys need to talk. Communication is number one here, and if neither of you communicate your feelings and maybe try to solve this problem, then nothing will get better. Next time you see him alone, or if you want to send him a message, make sure you express all your feelings and let him know that you DO want a friendship, and just wish that this friendship could be like it use to be.

If he doesn't respond to your message, or get rude/mean when you talk to him, than you really have no other choice but to move on and build other great friendships.



Best wishes,
Chris

[Artistic Soul]

As Chris mentioned above, communication is really very important. I suggest you to have a detailed conversation with him, and tell him openly and frankly that you want o be his friend again. Try not to scream and/or lose your temper.
Hope this works out well! All the best!
xx