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Arrogance.. - February 10th 2012, 12:08 AM

Ok, so I dance at a reasonably high level and so spend a lot of time with my dance partner. He is a lovely guy but recently has been getting more and more on my nerves- but I don't know if this is more a problem with me? He regularly oversteps the line between confidence and arrogance, but I think a large part of it is that he's not british.. Not to generalise, but its a very english thing to downplay your own achievements. In particular, having always been an academic overachiever I have a constant filter on myself, to make sure I don't come across as immodest.. (haha now I don't sound modest at all right :P). Basically with him, no such filter exists. Being his dance partner means I get included in some of what he says and it makes me cringe. For example today we were praised as the only ones in the class who had done a particular thing right (ie the teacher was having a go at everyone else). My natural reaction in this situation is to not really react at all, whereas his reaction is to beam and generally look extremely pleased with himself/with us. I'm not saying I can't take a compliment but if someone behaved like that in school when a teacher was telling everyone else off I doubt they'd be all too popular...

Urgh sorry for the rant. Basically my question is: do you think its a problem with me and I should get over it? Or should I ask him to be a bit more careful with how he acts. A bit of arrogance in performance is fine, but arrogance off the dancefloor is not!

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Re: Arrogance.. - February 10th 2012, 12:31 AM

First off, I'd just like to say that I look up to dancers as I'm the farthest thing from gracefull I don't think you have a problem. Extreme arrogance annoys most people. I think you have your answer right there in your last sentence. Just politely mention to him to keep the arrogance on the dancefloor.

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Re: Arrogance.. - February 10th 2012, 01:07 AM

Nah, you don't have a problem. Just let him know that sometimes he crosses the line, and it's starting to annoy you, but say it in a nice way.

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Re: Arrogance.. - February 10th 2012, 01:23 AM

If you don't mind my asking, could you provide us with a couple of examples of your partner's "arrogance"? What does he say and do? In my opinion, looking proud of oneself is not arrogant at all - if he did a good job, and he's being complimented for it, then he deserves to enjoy that praise! Arrogance, in that particular situation, would be saying, "We're the best!" or making a point of contrasting his performance with other dancers' performance after receiving the compliment. Looking happy for having received a compliment is... well... human!

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