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Advice needed. Comfort, maybe. I dunno. Just help. - February 13th 2012, 12:22 AM

My guy friend had to leave town to live with some friends of his. His house was a wreck. He now lives about six hours away. He's said he'll come back to visit me, and I'm going to go ahead and get the sword I was buying him for his birthday and send it to him. We talked today. I panicked and told him I loved him, and he said to calm down, that he loved me too. I asked him about the town he'd moved to, what it was like, told him I was happy for him. I told him I'd go to school tomorrow, to see what our theater teacher would do once she realized one of her main characters had disappeared off the face of the planet. I cried the entire time, but the end of the conversation, he had me laughing and we were joking around, imagining having a house together with dogs for him and a piano for me.

I don't know what to think. I'm numb to everything. I have to go to school tomorrow, and he won't be there. I've been holding back tears all day, and everywhere I go, it's like there's this big huge cloud hanging over me. I've been restless since I found out; last night, every time I fell asleep, all I could think of was him.

It struck me that Friday was the last day I ever saw him. I keep imagining him smiling, holding him, laughing while we walked all over town together. I also realized that despite our loving each other as much as we do, there's a big chance that we'll both have to move on.

I've decided to go back to homeschool and graduate early (which I've researched thoroughly, and is entirely possible). I have nothing for me at that school anymore. The academics are boring, the extracurricular activities frustrating. I was only staying for him, and now that he's gone, I have no reason to.


I'm holding back tears as I write this. I don't know what to do with myself. I'd love to ask him if he thinks a long distance relationship is possible, but I don't want to hold him down. I'm so sad and frustrated. I haven't felt this badly since the last time I was depressed. I just want to go outside and run until I have to come in and go to sleep from exhaustion, even though it's pitch black and snowing.

I just need some advice. I can't talk out loud to anyone, because every time I do, I start crying all over again. Tell me what to do, someone. Please.


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Re: Advice needed. Comfort, maybe. I dunno. Just help. - February 13th 2012, 12:57 AM

If he feels the same way about you then there shouldn't be any problem with a long distance relationship. I was in a similar situation. My girlfriend moved to a different school out of the blue and we talked to each other for a few months and it got better after about 2 weeks. Hope everything goes alright for you and hope I helped at least a little bit.
   
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Re: Advice needed. Comfort, maybe. I dunno. Just help. - February 13th 2012, 01:03 AM

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If he feels the same way about you then there shouldn't be any problem with a long distance relationship. I was in a similar situation. My girlfriend moved to a different school out of the blue and we talked to each other for a few months and it got better after about 2 weeks. Hope everything goes alright for you and hope I helped at least a little bit.
I guess it's worth a try. I just... It's so hard to explain. But thank you. I really appreciate any kind words or advice right now.


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Re: Advice needed. Comfort, maybe. I dunno. Just help. - February 13th 2012, 01:11 AM

I agree. It sounds like both of you care about each other a lot. I think you can make it work. I wish you luck.



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Re: Advice needed. Comfort, maybe. I dunno. Just help. - February 13th 2012, 01:26 AM

He JUST moved... so it's going to take some time for you to adjust, and vice versa. Be patient, and remember that he's hurting just as much as you are, if not more so. You don't get to see him anymore, but he doesn't get to see everyone he knew at school. It's perfectly possible to make a long-distance relationship work, but I wouldn't push for that just yet. You told him you love him, and he said it in return... so at least you both know where you stand on that. =) Let him get settled in his new home, then bring up the idea of dating. Good luck!






   
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Re: Advice needed. Comfort, maybe. I dunno. Just help. - February 13th 2012, 01:34 AM

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He JUST moved... so it's going to take some time for you to adjust, and vice versa. Be patient, and remember that he's hurting just as much as you are, if not more so. You don't get to see him anymore, but he doesn't get to see everyone he knew at school. It's perfectly possible to make a long-distance relationship work, but I wouldn't push for that just yet. You told him you love him, and he said it in return... so at least you both know where you stand on that. =) Let him get settled in his new home, then bring up the idea of dating. Good luck!
I know. I'm going to wait a week or two, and then talk to him. I think that just as long as we keep in contact, we'll maybe have a chance. And that, I know we're both going to do, because we both said so.

Thanks, guys. I really feel a lot better now. Still crying, but I'm better.


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Re: Advice needed. Comfort, maybe. I dunno. Just help. - February 13th 2012, 01:45 AM

Well look at the bright side, you have an AMAZING friend. And even though you're separated you've still got an amazing caring person in your life. .
   
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Re: Advice needed. Comfort, maybe. I dunno. Just help. - February 13th 2012, 02:48 AM

I know. Trouble is, I'll epically miss being more than friends. The silver lining of the situation is that Joy -- the wife of the man who took him in -- used to be best friends with my mom in high school, and the two of them are already conniving and making plans, lol.

I'm crossing my fingers. A bit of hope is better than none.


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