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I probably shouldn't say this to my dad, but... - February 16th 2012, 12:20 AM

Okay, to make a long story shorter, my dad has not been paying child support for the past 13 months, roughly, even though he did and does have sufficient income to do so.
Money's getting really tight at my house, even with my mom working full-time, and I think my sister contributing wages from her part-time job. We can't always afford groceries. I know it's partially my fault for being a picky eater, but the fact is that I'm eating about one meal a day plus random unhealthy snacks (like a handful of chocolate chips) because my mom can't afford to buy healthy food that I eat.

The last time my dad called me on my phone was May 12. He texted me for the first time (ever?) a week or two ago to ask "how are you?" I didn't answer for certain reasons, but I finally have an answer for him:
Oh, I'm fine, except I'm pretty hungry these days because we don't have money for groceries since you don't send Mom child support and you haven't been for over a year.

I half-jokingly told my mom that I wanted to say that to him and she actually said I should. He doesn't really listen to her and she thinks maybe he'll listen to his daughter.

The main reason I'm not already sending a text saying that is because I really don't know what his reaction will be since I've never been so snarky/disrespectful towards him before, and I've been suffering from anger issues lately so I don't know if that's just the anger talking.

So, um, advice? Should I say that to him?
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Re: I probably shouldn't say this to my dad, but... - February 16th 2012, 12:42 AM

Personally, if I was in your position, I would say that to him. If he is supposed to be sending child support for you and your sister and hasn't, then he deserves to hear that from you. Besides, it's only the truth right? Also, as far as I know (and it isn't very much about this, I'll admit) if your dad isn't paying his child support can't the courts do something about that? However, it is your decision whether you say that to him or not and no one else can make that decision for you. I don't think you should do anything you're not comfortable with. Whatever you decide, I hope it goes well for you. Take care!
   
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Re: I probably shouldn't say this to my dad, but... - February 16th 2012, 01:02 AM

If I were you I would definitely say that. He has a responsibility to support you and your family, and if he cant do that, than he needs someone to point it out.


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Re: I probably shouldn't say this to my dad, but... - February 16th 2012, 01:50 AM

I agree. I think I would also say that to him. Its important that he knows what is going on. Chances are he will either try to get some child support money over to you, or he will laugh it off. But at this point, its worth a try.


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Re: I probably shouldn't say this to my dad, but... - February 16th 2012, 05:36 AM

In response to Megan: my mom is reluctant to get him in legal trouble for not sending child support and I think in the past she expressed a valid reason, though I can't remember it now. Besides that, they're going to court for a different reason and he hasn't shown up the last two or three times so I don't have much faith in him caring what the court tells him.

To all: Thank you for the support. I think I will try to send the message tomorrow morning.
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