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I don't know - April 1st 2009, 02:46 AM

My best friend who I haven't talked to since January showed up at my door 20 minutes ago. We've drifted apart... and I don't know that was a little overwelming...

It's so awkward it's not like it used to be at all. She has her own life now and I have mine. But it's so hard... we're friends with the same people and it's almost as if she's taking them away from me.

And like... she smokes cigarettes now... I'm not saying that's a terrible thing or whatever but she quit and was constantly telling me not to smoke and to quit. And it's just like... now she does and she's totally different.

And she told me she's fine without me. I guess I've been doing fine without her too but it's just hard not having a best friend who lives close by nd shit. I do miss her. But at the same time she's hurt me.

I messaged her to call me later but this was just fucking overwelming and I don't know why I'm crying. We have our own lives now but I guess that's just part of life? Idk. I don't know where this thread belongs I guess it's more of a rant. I need some cheering up v___V

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Re: I don't know - April 1st 2009, 11:48 AM

I think it fits just fine here in Friends and Family. [: Cheer up, butterfly-mangoe! ^_^

I can see where that would be overwhelming for you, but you know, I think it's going to be alright. I'm not sure why your friend would come to your house just to tell you she's doing okay without you; I don't necessarily think that's a good thing, but I dunno, at least you guys touched base briefly, right? Plus, if you're hanging out with the same friends and you're both up for rekindling the old friendship, I bet it wouldn't be too terribly difficult to do that! But, yeah that'd have to be a mutual thing. I bet, though, that you'd be a really good influence on her, and we could all use good influences on ourselves every once in a while.

Anyway, it's okay. [: Either way, things will either go back to how they were in January, or they'll go back to how they were yesterday. You'll keep hanging out with her friends, she'll keep hanging out with hers, and even if it feels like she's "stealing" your friends away, just remember that as humans, we're capable of having many friends. It's a wonderful quality. Otay, peace out and take care of yourself. ..and let us know how things go!

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Re: I don't know - April 1st 2009, 11:49 AM

I know this kind of thing is tough. It's true that it is a part of life, when friends grow apart. But that doesn't make it any less difficult when it happens. Did you and your friend discuss anything when she showed up at your house? Have you tried to talk to her about your friendship? I really would suggest simply asking her where she wants to go with your friendship from here. You also need to think some things through. Where do you want to go with this friendship? If you're willing to be in a friendship with her, and you want to be fully, then go for it. But if you don't want to get hurt, if she has hurt you a lot in the past, that's something that you have to take into consideration. Think things through, then possibly talk things through with this friend. I know it doesn't seem like it, but things will eventually fall into place the way that they are meant to be. Best of luck. x

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Re: I don't know - April 5th 2009, 08:37 PM

hey girl,
i can see that your overwhelmed right now but if your friend is treating you like that then you dont need her and once your friends realize that this girl isnt cool then they will wanna hang with you. im not saying this will happen but it could
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