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Question Friend troubles - March 24th 2012, 05:44 AM

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So, my best friend told me she tried a cigarette. I always looked up to her and never thought she would do any drugs. She told me one hit wasn't considered doing drugs, but I expressed my concern b/c ik wat smoking can do to you. Then she got really mad at me. I apologized for over reacting and told her i was just worried and she got even more upset. I told her I want to talk about it and don't want it to turn out badly. She yelled at me and I got a little carried away myself. but I apologized multiple times and don't know wat to do. any advice, help?
   
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Re: Friend troubles - March 24th 2012, 06:08 AM

Your best bet is to take a break for a few days. After that, tell her you are sorry, and don't bring up the subject anymore. I often always talk about communication, and how silencing yourself is a bad idea - however with an outraged friend like this who likes to lash out and fight back, the last thing you need to do is voice your opinion to her with something she doesn't want to hear.

She knows your stand point about drugs - and I think your best bet is to just stand up for what you believe is right, but don't force it on others. People change, and although you may have thought she doesn't smoke, she may now want to - and you have to decide if you will accept a friend who does that, or if you will have to move on and find those people who don't do things like this.

But for right now, take a break, call her in a few days, say sorry, and don't bring it up. Try to rekindle the friendship little by little (if you deem it necessary).



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