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Am I overreacting? - April 7th 2012, 05:16 AM

Okay so I have this friend, we'll pretend his name is James. James never had much money (I didn't either, but I had more than him) so I often gave him food and everything fairly often. And when his grandma kicked him out temporarily (Because she is abusive and he isn't "masculine enough", irrelevant anyways..) I let him move in with me and my mom. I gave him my own couch, and let him use my only TV even though it had my video game system attached to it and stuff. (So I couldn't use it without going into his area, which I didn't really do)

Anyway long story short he is back with his grandma because my mom felt he couldn't get a job fast enough and his birthday is the 5th and mine is the 9th.
Well spring break was during my birthday so I invited him over then, even though he would get half the attention during my b-day. (I took work off as well) Anyway I didn't expect a present because, again, he's poor. But I got him one and we brought him to dinner for our bday. He got $40 dollars for his bday from my mom and she strongly hinted he should get me something.

I thought I'd be nice of him, but again he didn't have a lot of money so I didn't expect him to. So we go to the mall to hang out and he buys a present for his friend Amanda. And that's where I really felt I guess used or under-appreciated. I invited him during MY bday for it to be OUR day instead of MINE (Which I was fine with, don't get me wrong) and he buys a present for somebody else with the money my mom gave him. Really? I even helped him get shelter in his time of need!

Then he goes home and talks about how awesome his friends Alyssa and Amanda are and leaves me out of it.

Am I over-exaggerating or is what I'm feeling totally justified?
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Re: Am I overreacting? - April 7th 2012, 07:47 AM

I understand how your feeling , perhaps he bought a different girl a present because he has a crush on her or is trying to impress her . I guess it depends how he sees you - as a good friend or just as someone who as kindly allowed him shelter ?

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Re: Am I overreacting? - April 7th 2012, 03:47 PM

He doesn't have a crush on her and we've been "bestfriends" for maybe a very long time now. I was just shocked that for my bday he'd rather get someone else a present.

And there's something that just feels weird. I don't know what though. But I feel like if I give so much to you why can't you get me one bday present? And of course at first I was fine with it because he was poor but then he got someone else a gift...
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