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dad - April 17th 2012, 12:49 PM

my dad has never really let me kno if he loves me or cares for me , we usually never really talk and i always think he hates me and thinks im a failure or something like that but two days ago my parents found out i was suicidal and tonight he came in my room crying he hugged me the first time ever btw than he said i dont say it but i do love you btw first time ever know im just crying my eays out and i dont kno what to think that hug just felt so weird
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Re: dad - April 17th 2012, 04:22 PM

It sounds like you got a very important question you had about your dad answered.

It's unfortunate you misinterpreted his silence as rejection, and it's especially unfortunate it took a suicide attempt to get the info you so desperately needed. The task now is to use that new found confirmation of his love and appreciation of you to build a better and more emotionally inclusive relationship so you can continue to feel better and heal.


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Re: dad - April 17th 2012, 06:25 PM

I'm glad you've finally received confirmation that your dad loves you! =) Sometimes, people have different styles of expressing their love for another person, based on their personality and/or what they've gone through in life. Perhaps your dad felt that, by providing for you financially, it was clear that he loved you. Some people need to HEAR those actual words, though, vs. just seeing the actions that are often tied in with love. Also, your father may have grown up in a household where saying, "I love you," was a sign of weakness. Maybe he doesn't feel it's safe to actually say those three words. Of course, I don't know if any of this is true, but I've seen it happen plenty of times, especially with men who come from previous generations (where times were tougher and emotions/feelings weren't given as much attention as they are now).





   
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