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My grandmother - April 6th 2009, 07:54 PM

My grandmother went into the hospital yesterday morning...and I just found out she has lung cancer, and the doctors say they don't think there's anything they can do. They said she has about 3-6 months left, and she's already decided she doesn't want them to do anything even if they can. I'm already a complete wreck. I'm closer to her than either of my parents...she's like my best friend and she taught me more than anyone else. All my life I've tried to make her proud, I don't even know what I'm supposed to do once she's not around. I had always hoped she would be here to see me graduate and get married and maybe even have kids. Now she most likely won't make it to my college graduation next spring. I don't know what to do. I have no idea how I'm supposed to live like this counting down the days until she's supposed to be dead, just waiting for it to happen knowing there's nothing I can do.

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Re: My grandmother - April 6th 2009, 07:56 PM

its always hard to lose someone like that, trust me, i would know. Now is the time to make the most of the time that she is still here with you, try not think about the good times you have shared and have a few more. Make her last time on earth the best. It will be hard, but you will be happy you did it in the long run. msg me if you have any ?s




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Re: My grandmother - April 6th 2009, 09:51 PM

Hey Lyndsay,

I am so sorry to hear that your grandmother has cancer. It is such an awful disease. Don't sit around and dread what it to come. That won't make you or your grandmother happy. You need to make the most of the time you have left with her. Be happy she is still with you and cherish every second. I would recommend spending as much time with her as you can. When you are ready to and when her condition gets worse I would consider saying your good byes to her. I know it is going to be hard but it can help you to accept things and not leave anything unfinished if you say good bye when you have the chance. It is really up to you but I do think it could be really healing. Additionally, letting her know how much you care can comfort her in this frightening time. You can make it through this. Your grandma is never really leaving you. Not in spirit anyway. Keep her spirit alive by living life to the fullest even once she has passed away. If you ever need someone to talk to I am here for you. Hang in there and be strong for her.

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Re: My grandmother - April 11th 2009, 01:21 PM


I know its hard to watch you're grandma in pain, in the hospital and suffering. I'm really negative, so when my grandma was in the hospital I had no hope for her and it didn't help at all. But when they predicted she wouldn't make it through the night she did, and she made it for a few months further. Doctor's are like eduacated realists, but don't be surprised if they're wrong. Its hard to stay strong so don't pressure yourself. Take things one step at a time. I know its hard not to worry about the future, but right now its best to just worry about one thing at a time and take life as it comes.
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