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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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My granddad died - September 16th 2013, 12:36 AM

My granddad died a few weeks ago and, still, i just cry at random times, usually when i'm alone, and it feels like i can't stop being sad about his death. I knew that he was going to die soon the last time i saw him, but the tears just keep on comming.
   
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Re: My granddad died - September 16th 2013, 12:49 AM

Keepholdingon, it's okay to cry, if it helps get it all out; go ahead and cry. It is okay to be sad about his death; grieving doesn't happen over a few weeks. Continue to grieve, continue to cry if it helps.

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Re: My granddad died - September 16th 2013, 12:54 AM

Awwh, thats such a BIG SHAME. I feel really bad for you, and for your family

Its never ever easy to lose someone, its tough, harsh and unfair.

Don't think crying is bad, ITS GOOD, it shows strength not weakness. It takes a tough person to cry, whoever doesn't cry is not tough; just needs to see a shrink!

My granddad died before i really young; but i look up to him, especially since he fought in the Falklands. My other granddad on the other side of my family is a bit..well...y'know.


Its so sad to lose someone..but as it may be said by few, 'one part of growing up is accepting the inevitability of death' is clearly very true, yet very sadly harsh. But you know your a tough person i can see you'll be okay.

Your granddad is very proud of you, keep your head up high, don't feel sad.

Soldier on and don't look back at the past; but you'll always have a place in your heart for your dear granddad, he is looking at you now, and he is VERY Proud of you.


I'm here for you if u ever want a chat or Anything, you one brave Awesome Person <3



   
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Re: My granddad died - September 16th 2013, 01:20 AM

Hey there. I'm sorry to hear about the recent loss. Losing someone you really care about can be one of the hardest things we ever have to do. I agree with some of the other posts. Emotions, crying, all that stuff - it's normal, and most importantly it's healthy. However, if the loss is starting to effect majority of your life (ie: you can't stop thinking about it, you aren't able to function, etc), then that's when it becomes unhealthy. If that is the case, or becomes the case, then seek help. You can seek help by either talking to a school counselor, or finding some outside counseling to attend.

I hope that things get better, and that you start to feel better aswell. Take care of yourself.


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Re: My granddad died - September 16th 2013, 11:19 PM

I'm really sorry to hear about your granddad. It really is okay to cry, you know? It's definitely better than to hold everything in. Maybe you can find other ways to express your emotions as well, like writing, art, making music, or even exercise.

Or, talk to the people in your life about what's going on. I bet your family is going through this too, so talk to them and you all can be a support system for one another, talking everything through. Maybe you all can remember some of the happy or funny times and have a laugh out of it as well, because laughter's just as good as tears.

You can also talk to a friend, guidance counselor, teacher, or therapist about this and they'll all be willing to help you.

Maybe you can find a good way to remember or honor your granddad. Maybe you can make a scrapbook with all the good things the two of you did together, for instance, or you can write out anything you'd want to say to him. What you do with it after is up to you. You can tie it to a balloon and let it go, rip it up, burn it, keep it, or something else.

Also know that your granddad is really proud of you. He's watching over you, smiling down on you and guiding you through the tough times. It may be hard now, but as they say, time heals all wounds.

You can do this.

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Re: My granddad died - September 17th 2013, 02:23 AM

Hey there,

I can't even express how sorry I am to hear about your granddad. Death is one of the most difficult things to go through, and you should feel no obligation to feel better yet. Death affects different people in different ways, and it's best to just let your emotions run their course and start healing when YOU are ready. If you need to cry, do it. If you're sometimes not sure how you feel, that's all right. Whatever emotions you may have are okay.

If it's not too difficult to talk about, it might help to discuss your feelings or just talk about your granddad with someone you trust. Talking about someone you've lost can help you to feel closer to them and make you feel better. I'm also always around if you ever need to talk or just want to have a chat.

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Re: My granddad died - September 17th 2013, 02:42 PM

I am so sorry about your granddad. My grandfather died this year as well. Death is to sudden and it holds you down.


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Re: My granddad died - September 28th 2013, 06:14 AM

Thank you, all of you.
   
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Re: My granddad died - September 28th 2013, 11:54 AM

Hey Ellie.

I'm sorry to hear this. Everyone else has covered the actual advice parts, and I don't have much to add, other than my sympathies, so I'll just second what the lovely users above me said. One of the most accurate statements about death that comes to mind is 'it's always sudden' - no matter how long you have to prepare for it, somehow it always catches you off guard. It will take time to heal, so be gentle with yourself, and grieve however you feel is right.

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Re: My granddad died - September 28th 2013, 01:13 PM

Hi Ellie, sorry to hear of your loss. Let yourself cry as greieving is natural after a death, don't hold your feelings in and let them bottle up as that just makes things worse. You could start of a memory box or book to help you remember him, maybe fill it up with pictures of him and memories of him.
I'm always here if you want to talk, I know how your feeling right know, it will gradually get easier.






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Re: My granddad died - September 28th 2013, 05:29 PM

Hello,

I'm extremely sorry about your loss. I understand how you feel. When my grandmother died I couldn't stop the crying. The best thing to do is just cry it out. Maybe you have someone you can talk to?

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Re: My granddad died - October 9th 2013, 06:12 PM

Remember, this is normal. It will eventually pass. You will always love and miss your grandfather but eventually after all the pain and crying is coming to an end you will be able to convince yourself that everything will be alright and he is not in pain anymore.
   
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