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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Rosalie Amelia was born on the 28th December 2013, however, I had very complicated labour and things didn't go well at all. She didn't come out breathing, they tried for nealy half an hour to get her to breathe but there was nothing. She was classed as a still born and I'd had to go down to surgery for stitches. Devastated just isn't the word for this, I'd grown to love her a lot in the 9 months that I'd carried her and not being able to say hello to her or anything breaks my heart. She was born 8 pound 8 ounces, the doctors still can't figure out what caused her to stop breathing, they said it could have possibly been the cord but we will never know what truly caused it, it could have been anything. I blame myself all of the time for her death even though I know it wasn't my fault.
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Re: Rosalie Amelia - March 14th 2014, 02:31 AM

I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Nothing is ever harder than that moment when you lose a child, no matter how it happens.
You just have to know its not your fault. There are lots of people in the world that have gone through the exact same thing as you are right now, and they all probably feel just the same.
You need to grieve, cry, and move past this step in your life. She wouldn't want you to be upset.
I am not sure if you believe this or not, but I think she is in heaven with your family, and they are taking care of her. You will see her again.

I am so sorry you had to go through this tragic event, the best thing you could do for yourself is to talk to someone who has gone through it, ask them how they coped, and how things worked from there. No matter what, you will always remember your little girl.

I hope one day, you find peace, and happiness.
   
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Re: Rosalie Amelia - March 14th 2014, 11:40 AM

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I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Nothing is ever harder than that moment when you lose a child, no matter how it happens.
You just have to know its not your fault. There are lots of people in the world that have gone through the exact same thing as you are right now, and they all probably feel just the same.
You need to grieve, cry, and move past this step in your life. She wouldn't want you to be upset.
I am not sure if you believe this or not, but I think she is in heaven with your family, and they are taking care of her. You will see her again.

I am so sorry you had to go through this tragic event, the best thing you could do for yourself is to talk to someone who has gone through it, ask them how they coped, and how things worked from there. No matter what, you will always remember your little girl.

I hope one day, you find peace, and happiness.
I keep trying to tell myself that it's not my fault as I didn't know how things would turn out during the labour. I think she got stuck and that's what may have caused it. She will always be in my heart and yes you are right, the family that have died and are up there will be taking good care of her
I just wish I'd had the chance to say a proper hello but many people have never had the chance.
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Re: Rosalie Amelia - March 14th 2014, 10:44 PM

Yes they are, and its going to be okay. Just keep your head up high, and continue to try to get better with this.
   
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Re: Rosalie Amelia - March 15th 2014, 12:11 AM

Hey there, Michaela.

I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss. I can't even imagine what you have gone and are going through right now. I can't relate to your specific situation, but I can relate to losing someone that I love. The recovery process after an event like this is horrific, but it is necessary.

As previously said, remember that this isn't your fault. Drill that into your head, if you're able too. It's unfortunate that tragedy's happen, but they do. And when they do, majority of the time no one is "at fault" for them. They're unfortunate accidents.

Keep your head up, take the necessary amount of time to grieve, and keep pushing through.


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Re: Rosalie Amelia - March 15th 2014, 01:20 PM

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Hey there, Michaela.

I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss. I can't even imagine what you have gone and are going through right now. I can't relate to your specific situation, but I can relate to losing someone that I love. The recovery process after an event like this is horrific, but it is necessary.

As previously said, remember that this isn't your fault. Drill that into your head, if you're able too. It's unfortunate that tragedy's happen, but they do. And when they do, majority of the time no one is "at fault" for them. They're unfortunate accidents.

Keep your head up, take the necessary amount of time to grieve, and keep pushing through.


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Thank you Chris. I am slowly starting to recover physically and mentally. Have to go back to the hospital this month to get checked over.
I know this is not my fault and I keep drumming it into myself.
My family are being really supportive and I can talk to them about how I am feeling after what happened.
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