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Lost another friend :'( - April 2nd 2014, 11:46 PM

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A few days ago, I lost another friend to suicide, His name was Peter. He was 18.
I didn't see this happen like I seen, my other friend Micheal take his own life, I sorta feel at fault, becuz the night he took his life, we were talking and I was talking him outta it...but my damn internet went out and I couldn't get back on till early the next morning..
When I finally got on that morning, I had gotten a email from his family, telling me Peter sliced his wrists and bled to death. They wanted to also tell me that as far as they could see that I was the last person he talked to. I don't understand why I have to lose sooo many people...Hell I watched Micheal take his own life, what maybe a month ago? This is just too much sometimes.
Talking to people don't help, I talk to my mom whenever I need her. I pretty much spend most of my time sleeping and or talking to my mom. She's the only one helping me thru all this shit I'm going thru, I mean she isn't taking all the pain away, but she's helping me get thru it and such.
I also want to ask that you guys pray, for Peter's family, and me. His family is going thru hell right now, Peter was very, very loved, by many people...yet he still had his problems.


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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 3rd 2014, 12:07 AM

I will definitely be praying. I'm so incredibly sorry to hear about that. That must be so beyond difficult for you. I'll be praying.


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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 3rd 2014, 12:16 AM

Thank you Liv, that means alot.







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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 3rd 2014, 12:21 AM

I am really sorry for your loss. I have lost many people to suicide too. My best friends shot himself just about 3 weeks ago. A friend jumped in front of the metro rail about 7 weeks ago. And my brothers wife hung herself about 2 months ago (we were close). If you need anyone to talk. I am alway a good listener.
   
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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 3rd 2014, 12:33 AM

Wow...that's about how long it's been since MY best friend shot himself...and I'm sorry for your losses too...and thank you..same goes to you







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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 3rd 2014, 01:07 AM

I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine how terrible that must be for you.


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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 3rd 2014, 01:13 AM

It's pretty terrible, but I'm sure I'll get thru it..I just need y'all's help..so please pray.







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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 3rd 2014, 06:00 AM

I'm really sorry to hear about this. It must be hard for his family and you right now. Especially since you just lost your friend not too long ago. I'll be praying for you and Peter's family. Remember that you can message me anytime and I'll definitely listen.
   
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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 3rd 2014, 08:55 AM

Thank you Serena, that means alot <3







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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 5th 2014, 05:37 AM

Hi there, Beth.

I'm so sorry to hear about the recent situations you've had to deal with. I've been in similar circumstances, so I know the utter emptiness, sadness, and the river of other emotions that you're currently feeling. I do want you to be aware that none of this is your fault. Continue to remind yourself of that fact, because it's 100% true.

I will, however, keep all those effected by these horrible tragedies in my thoughts. Stay strong, my friend.


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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 5th 2014, 08:37 AM

Hi Beth,

I'm so terribly sorry to hear about your friend. Unfortunately, many of us, including myself have lost very close friends to suicide, and it's incredibly difficult to deal with. I would like to just say, that in no way are you at fault and in no way should you feel guilty. It must really be taking a lot out of you and I wish there was a way of making that feeling go away. but this is all part of the mouring. Let it all out.

It's still not your fault. You did what you could. The decision was his and you did not make it for him. Maybe you wish you had been there to stop him, but please don't blame yourself.

All you can do now is cherish his memory and carry all that is good and beautiful about him wherever you go, in your heart. I'll pray for Peter, and his family and friends so they may stay strong and come out of this stronger.


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Re: Lost another friend :'( - April 5th 2014, 11:22 AM

It's really sad to hear that you've lost someone to suicide, but you shouldn't feel guilty, it's not your fault - in the end it was their decision.
I hope you'r holding out ok


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I'm so terribly sorry to hear about your friend. Unfortunately, many of us, including myself have lost very close friends to suicide, and it's incredibly difficult to deal with. I would like to just say, that in no way are you at fault and in no way should you feel guilty. It must really be taking a lot out of you and I wish there was a way of making that feeling go away. but this is all part of the mouring. Let it all out.

It's still not your fault. You did what you could. The decision was his and you did not make it for him. Maybe you wish you had been there to stop him, but please don't blame yourself.

All you can do now is cherish his memory and carry all that is good and beautiful about him wherever you go, in your heart. I'll pray for Peter, and his family and friends so they may stay strong and come out of this stronger.
Thank you, that made me feel a lil bit better ...and thank you for praying, it means alot.

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