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i miss him - May 3rd 2009, 10:43 AM

My uncle passed away almost 2 months ago. And i miss him so bad... There are times that i even wrote letters to ALL my family and friends and told them i missed them and that i wanted to die.
i knew i wasnt going to kill myself, but sometimes i just wanted to go and die in my sleep..
i can still hear him telling me over and over like he used to..


and i know he did. he told me that EVERYTIME he seen me. And yeah it hurts. What i am asking is,

is there anyway i can get over the feelin that i dont want to wake up when i go to sleep? Because i want to see him again. Should i write letters, even tho he wont get them... ANYTHING?

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Re: i miss him - May 3rd 2009, 07:57 PM

Hey Brittany,

Dealing with the death of a family member is never easy. It is doubly hard if you try to cope with you're feeling on your own. I would suggest relying on the support of your family, friends, possibly a therapist or school counselor, community, or even a religious leader. Talk to someone about how you are feeling. I am sure there are people around you who want to help but if they don't know what is going on then there isn't much they can do. Writing letters to your uncle is a good idea. I sometimes write letters and tie them to balloons so they float up to the people I'm sending them to. Just the other day my friend suggested taking a box and placing things in it that remind you of your uncle, things you write for him, or anything you think he'd like (ie pictures of you two together, a favorite book, a memento from a special memory, etc.). Keep this box somewhere save and continue to add things and bring it out when you are really missing him. If you ever need someone to talk to I am here for you. I know what it's like to lose a family member. Take care and hang in there.

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Re: i miss him - May 5th 2009, 09:08 PM

Hey there, Brittany.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. When we lose someone we love, we're faced with a lot of difficult emotions. It sounds like you were very close with your uncle and that his loss has hit you pretty hard. Have you tried talking to your family about this? Having someone to lean on, during difficult times, is very important.

I do think it's okay for you to write him letters. Although he cannot read them, expressing yourself is always okay, and often very helpful. I think it'd be okay to talk to him, too. Even if he cannot hear you, it may comfort you. One day the feeling of never wanting to wake up will subside.

It's okay to need other people, right now and always. Lean on them, they want to be there for you, I'm sure. Take care of yourself and let me know if you need anything.

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