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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Death - May 5th 2014, 11:53 AM

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Hiya,

So things are tough at the moment, my good friend was murdered, my other friend died of cancer two days ago, my cousin died a year ago yesterday, my older brother tried to kill himself last night..

It's weird, I mean, I've struggled with self-harm and depression for years but I don't feel devastated, I don't feel like I'm here, and I'm worried that when it does hit me, what I will end up doing.
   
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Re: Death - May 5th 2014, 12:01 PM

Hey Emily

It's normal to feel all sorts of things when you are grieving, which it sounds like you're doing. What's important is to understand that it is normal that people will feel different things at different times. I mean, you've probably seen the stages of grief things - but it's not a one way trip.

Right now, this numb feeling? Probably something akin to shock. That's okay. It is perfectly okay for you to feel however you feel, whenever you feel it.

Have you got people that you can talk to? Sometimes it can be good to have someone there, even if you don't need or want to talk to them right at the moment. Could be a friend, pastor, teacher, counsellor, anyone really. Even one of us (We are here to help you).

When your feelings change, then whatever they change to is perfectly okay as well. If you've been depressed, then that might be a worry - but you can take care of yourself. Make sure you're sleeping and eating well, for example. Good healthy amount of exercise. Self-care right now is important.

Talk to us if you need/want Emily, and take care of yourself


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Re: Death - May 8th 2014, 10:11 PM

Hey there, Emily.

First off, I'm sorry for the losses that you and your family have suffered over the recent months/year. I know where you're coming from because in the past few months I have had many people in my life taken from me via both natural causes and suicide. Coping and fully "understanding" or "processing" these types of things are not easy. The river of emotions (or lack there of) are normal parts of the grieving stage. If you at all feel that something isn't "normal" or "right", then I would encourage you to seek some sort of help to be able to find someone to talk to on a regular basis (i.e., teacher, principal, social worker, counselor, police officer, etc).

If you ever need anything, you can always feel free to contact anyone on staff (including myself).


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