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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Process of Death - October 14th 2014, 07:19 PM

I just got a phone call telling me that my "adopted" grandmother is dying. She has a collapsed lung, half her face is paralyzed, and several other issues. I do not know the state of her health or how much longer she has because I was in a very public place when I got the phone call and she had to get off the phone to attempt speech therapy.

This lady adopted me as her grandchild on my first day of 7th grade and we have been very close ever since. I am currently away at college and unable to spend a lot of time with her. I'm not sure if spending time with her would help me or crush me emotionally.

I don't know what I need or why I am writing this honestly. Sometimes it just feels nice to put the information out there for someone to possibly read/listen to.

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Re: Process of Death - October 14th 2014, 08:15 PM

Hi there,

I'm really sorry to hear about this.

I can understand why you're hesitant to spend time with her. Spending time with someone who is ill can either be good or bad for the friends and family. Often times, we can predict our reactions but we can never be completely sure what they'll be. If you think you feel up to spending some time with her, then I say go for it. Visiting may help her feel a bit better. If you both have the right technology, perhaps you can video chat as well. But, ultimately, do what you feel is right for yourself.

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Re: Process of Death - October 15th 2014, 03:06 AM

Even if seeing her makes you feel sad, it may help you come to terms with her dying a bit more... If you can see her, and be with her once more. When people are ill, I think they kind of like to know that other people love them. That togetherness helps everyone.

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Re: Process of Death - October 15th 2014, 10:38 AM

I am sorry to hear this, I think you should visit her while there is still time. My grandma just pass away 2 months ago and I wasn't able to see her on her last days and it really hurts. The last time that I was able to talk to her was 2 years ago. I didn't know that it was our last conversation.
   
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Re: Process of Death - October 16th 2014, 01:42 AM

I've already sat with my biological grandfather the last 2 days of his life and I was holding his hand when he died. I'm afraid of the aftermath emotionally.


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Re: Process of Death - October 16th 2014, 02:32 AM

I can understand, it sounds like that was pretty traumatic for you. Whether you decide to see her is your choice, just make sure you do what is right for yourself and be sure to take care of yourself during this difficult time.


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