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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Friend died - May 8th 2015, 11:23 PM

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I haven't been on here much.. Wednesday night my friend was shot in the head with a gun. She was innocent. They shot through the car because they mistook her for someone else. They supposedly just wanted to shoot the car to give them a scare. She was shot through the head! I don't really know how to grieve properly.. She was only 17 years old. I feel like I'm just getting sadder. Today is Friday and I feel worse than yesterday which was the day after it happened. It's like it's just starting to hit me.. I'm not gonna be seeing her, hearing her contagious laugh, and her off key singing voice in church.. She was so funny and sweet and kind. I don't understand why Allie died, why her?


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Re: Friend died - May 9th 2015, 02:50 AM

Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. I got the chills when I read this. What happened to your friend was absolutely terrible and you should take all the time you need to get through this. Something so sudden and traumatic like this may take some time to hit you and it might hit you with different waves of emotion. It will take time for your mind to come to terms with everything that has happened. I personally don't think there is a right way to grieve; everyone grieves differently, so allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling.

Try to surround yourself with people so you're not too isolated, and be sure to talk about how you're feeling or find a way to express your feelings because keeping them inside is unhealthy. When you're feeling up to it, maybe you can write a letter to your friend so you can allow yourself to get some closure. I think you should consider seeing a professional so you can work through this with someone.


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Re: Friend died - May 9th 2015, 09:33 AM

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

I agree with Calico. with not keeping your emotions to yourself. There are a few ways you can express yourself such as talking to someone about what you're going through as they will help you get through it.


   
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Re: Friend died - May 9th 2015, 09:05 PM

One of my closest friends died just over a year ago and I am still heart broken. I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling right now but I want to assure you that it does begin to get a little easier as time goes by and you can get through this. If you ever want to talk, im always here x


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Re: Friend died - May 12th 2015, 10:36 PM

I am sorry for your loss. If you'd like to talk, I am here. Unfortunately, death is currently a part of life, and will be unless technologies determines otherwise. Regardless, it's difficult. I know. Eventually we come to grip with things, but all it really takes is time. There will be ups, downs, and inbetweens. There's not much we can do, but remember them for the joy they brought while they are here.

When I get depressed I tend to write poetry. Maybe you can do the same. It doesn't have to have rhyme or meter, just write flow of conscious how you are feeling (and thinking). If you feel comfortable, post it in the self-expression. I've written several things where I just sat down, typed what I was thinking, and posted it. I didn't do any editing or anything. Somehow, it's a nice vent. Take out your anger, sadness, whatever, just using words and share your emotions.

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Re: Friend died - May 12th 2015, 11:16 PM

I am deeply sorry for the lost of your friend. Best wishes.
   
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Re: Friend died - May 13th 2015, 02:18 AM

Thank you everyone <3 the funeral was today.. I'm starting to start to feel a little better. She's impacted so many lives..


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Re: Friend died - May 13th 2015, 06:15 PM

I hope the funeral went as well as it could have gone. I'm thinking of you x


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