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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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My father passed away.... - June 27th 2015, 04:18 PM

My daddy passed away Tuesday night in his sleep from a massive heart attack. I've been devastated for the last few days and feeling scared and alone. He died in Costa Rica and I live in the state of Florida so truly the distance has kept me in shock.



   
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Re: My father passed away.... - June 27th 2015, 04:55 PM

I'm very sorry for your loss. My condolences and best wishes to you and your family.
   
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Re: My father passed away.... - June 28th 2015, 02:18 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through right now.

Your dad passed away very recently, and the shock is understandable. It seems like you're in shock so you can protect yourself from feeling everything you would feel if you weren't in shock. I think your body is trying to protect you from the intensity of everything. Is there anyone you trust that you can talk to? You don't even have to talk to anyone, but sometimes just being in the presence of someone else can help so you know that you're not alone in this.

Right now, I think the best thing you can do is focus on taking care of yourself. Take baby steps and let yourself feel whatever you're feeling. Don't deny your feelings, let them run their course. I know that the sadness of losing someone can make self-care difficult, so focus on self-care. Try to let yourself get through the day, the night, or each hour if you have to look at it that way.

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Re: My father passed away.... - June 28th 2015, 06:40 AM

Hi, Ellie.

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I can't imagine how you must feel right now.

Being in shock is understandable considering the circumstances. Losing your father cannot be easy, and you'll probably feel many types of feelings so remember that it's normal. Letting yourself feel and letting yourself talk about those feelings is a step towards healing. Perhaps you could write your feelings in a journal?

Do you have anyone in your life you can talk to about this? Being able to turn to someone if you feel like talking could be a huge help. You deserve support instead of going through this alone. Which is why you're more than welcome to continue writing here. On that note, you can message me if you'd like, okay? I don't mind listening.

In the meantime, take care of yourself and remember you aren't alone. My sympathies and condolences to you and your family.
   
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Re: My father passed away.... - June 28th 2015, 08:26 AM

Hello Ellie,

I am truly very sorry for your loss.




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Re: My father passed away.... - June 29th 2015, 01:15 PM

I've been trying so hard to stay strong for my sake and the sake of my mother. If I fall apart, I pick myself back up because that's what my father would have wanted to see me do. I still cry; I think I will be grieving for quite a long time. I have been journaling my feelings since it happened and it helps quite a lot to just write things down as I feel them. I just want to keep feeling like he is alive but without knowing or feeling like he isn't. Because grasping the truth is what hurts me the most.



   
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Re: My father passed away.... - July 4th 2015, 08:54 PM

I think losing someone to death can be one of the hardest things in life or it least it has been for me. And you're right, you probably will grieve for a while because grieving is a process and it takes time. I lost my friend last March and I'm still grieving for them. In a different way now though and it is that bit easier, but I'm still going through the motions but as hard as it is, you will get through it. You don't have to stay strong for other people either. If you need to have a good cry, allow yourself to do so; it can be a great way to release out emotions.

It's great you have been writing in a journal. Do you have anyone you can talk to about all of this? Sometimes talking to someone in "real life" can be really helpful too and is something I would want to encourage you to do. Don't be alone through out this. It's a big thing and you deserve to have the support around you.

I'm here if you ever need a chat but for now, keep fighting and stay safe.
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