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My Best Friend.. - May 12th 2009, 10:21 PM

One of my best friends passed away on April 24th. Ever since, my feelings about the whole thing have been yo-yoing. The very day afterward, I thought I had moved through the stages of grieving extraordinarily fast and was at peace with it. Some days I am so wracked with grief that I can't even get out of bed. Today is one of those days.

I've been carrying on with my life very much the same way I would have if she was here. It's not like I've been in a constant state of depression, and everything just stopped. I've been able to laugh and have fun, something that seemed impossible to ever do again. Most of the people I know who knew her, including her family, are still grieving and they're still sad, but they all seem to be progressing. They have a support group of sorts, and they do a lot of praying. Praying is something that just never helped me, so even though I love these people, I just feel stuck on the outside in this state of devastation, while everyone else is beginning to pick up the pieces and move on.

Anyway. The point of this all is, I need someone to talk to. I always see people saying 'PM me if you need anything,' well - I need it. I don't care if you're a complete stranger, I just feel lost today and I need support. It would be more helpful than any of you even realize. <3

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Re: My Best Friend.. - May 13th 2009, 02:02 AM

Meg, I'm so sorry about your friend. I know how hard losing someone can be.Everyone griefs differently, and everyone moves on at a different time. If you need someone to talk to, or you need anything, pm me dear.

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Re: My Best Friend.. - May 13th 2009, 02:06 AM

Well I can relate at least. I have always been a bit socially awkward, had some good mates but fairly shy as well. My best friend since childhood died september, and he was like my only true real friend if that makes any sense. He would always chill, valued me, etc. and I now I am realizing people just are so quick to abandon each other sucks. His passing seemed to instantly isolate me from everyone else, because people were really just friends with him first, and since I was close with him we were like second hand friends and its just...agh

...sorry for rambling. but I think I might have an idea what you are going through. going to bed now but pm and i can talk to you tomorrow.
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Re: My Best Friend.. - May 14th 2009, 02:33 PM

hey hun... i'm so sorry for your loss. that must be really hard to handle...
do talk to someone who can help you through this grieving process. your friend would love to see you carry on with life. honour the memory of your friend and remember the best times you had together. (:
take care!

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Re: My Best Friend.. - May 17th 2009, 12:51 AM

Hey there, Meg.

I'm so, so sorry to hear about your loss. It's understandable that your feelings are a bit all over the place. Everyone experiences grief, differently. There are stages of grief, but we move through them at our own pace, in our own ways.

It's good that you've been able to carry on, in life. Sometimes that can be incredibly difficult and it shows a lot of strength, that you've been able to.

Although praying does not help you, maybe your friends and family can help you in other ways? If you're able to talk to them about how you're feeling, perhaps that would help you?

TeenHelp is always here for you. I'll always be here, as well. If you need anything, ever, you can always, always PM me. Take care and give me a shout if you need or want to.

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