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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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loss two brothers - October 3rd 2016, 04:13 PM

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In 2008 my first brother passed away in his sleep then 6 years later i got the news that my second brother passed away in his sleep. we were notified by the fire department Marshall. October 14th is when he passed. i miss them both so much. i could use someone to talk to

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Re: loss two brothers - October 4th 2016, 12:08 AM

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Re: loss two brothers - October 5th 2016, 09:34 PM

I am so sorry for your losses. It must have been really hard to lose one of your brothers, let alone both of them in a relatively short amount of years.

I know anniversaries of a death can be very difficult for the friends and family. Is there anything your brothers liked to do? Maybe they went to a certain place, or had a certain hobby. What if you did something they enjoyed to honor both of them around October 14th?

It might help to plan the day out so you stay busy, if you don't already have plans for that day. Maybe you can plan to spend that day with your friends and family so you don't feel alone. Or, you can take a little alone time, too. A little bit of time to yourself can help you but if you think it is making you worse, see if spending time with someone helps.

It's definitely okay to let yourself feel what you need to feel but I think keeping a little busy can help prevent for from getting really low.

Have you thought about writing letters to your brothers, or getting cards and writing in them to express how you're feeling? It might help to talk to them in that way as well.

Do try to remember to take care of yourself, too. Make sure you're getting plenty of food and water and sleep. Maybe you can go out of your way to do other things that lift your spirits.

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Re: loss two brothers - October 6th 2016, 03:11 PM

If you need someone to talk to, I'm here. I can relate, as I lost a little brother a few years ago. I know you've probably heard it a lot, but you'll get through it. It won't hurt any less in a few years, but it will get easier to cope with the hurt. Just make sure that you take time to greive, but not too much time. There's a fine line between greiving and isolating.


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Re: loss two brothers - October 6th 2016, 05:21 PM

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Re: loss two brothers - October 6th 2016, 08:06 PM

Hey.

I can not begin to imagine how you must be feeling right now. I am so sorry you have gone through this but its so good to see you're still here fighting despite feeling so sad and that you're even reaching out for some help.

Losing someone close to us is very hard and the grieving process is different for everyone do never compare yourself to anyone else. Where some people may feel bad, some may feel guilty, angry and so on and you might go through phases of feeling several things and even things like nightmares and being tired all the time and not wanting to eat and so on. This is all normal. Just keep going and do your best to to do things like getting good sleep and eating properly because that will make you emotionally stronger at the same time.

And talk to people about it. Whether that is us, family, friends, teachers, doctors, counselors, whoever, as long as you feel comfortable with them and feel you can open up. I think right now it's also a good time to build a good solid support network of people and for you to talk to help you deal with the emotions you are feeling. You could even start a blog on here to talk through it or keep journal to express your emotions and thoughts and so on.

When I lost my best friend, I bought a pretty box so I could write letters and to her and put them away safely. I also having things like her DVD of Aladdin (her fave film) in there, things she's made, a photo of her and a flower from the tree we planted for her etc. It really helps me so maybe giving something like this a go might be helpful but just take it all at your own pace, okay?

And remember we're here for you so never be alone.

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Re: loss two brothers - October 16th 2016, 08:29 AM

I am so sorry for your losses.
   
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Re: loss two brothers - October 16th 2016, 09:02 AM

Hi there,

I'm so sorry to hear of your losses.

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