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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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A way to remember your lost loved ones - May 10th 2017, 04:25 AM

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4 years ago I lost my little brother to sudden infant death syndrome. One of the ways that my therapist suggested coping with it was to do this. You write your loved one a letter. Say all the things that you wished you could have. Then get any helium-filled balloon, and tie the letter to the balloon. Stand outside, and let it go. You could also go to the grave site, and let it go there. I do this once a year, always on the day that he passed. I don't pretend to know if it gets to him, but I always like to think that it does. It's obviously not a miracle cure for your pain, but it helps. I hope everyone here uses this, and am sending good vibes to everyone who is suffering right now.

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Re: A way to remember your lost loved ones - May 10th 2017, 05:57 AM

First off I just want to say that I am deeply sorry for your loss. SIDS is a terrible thing and I cannot imagine how it feels to go through something like that.

I love the idea though, and I'm glad you've been able to use it to find a bit more peace with your brother's passing.

While I have been fortunate enough that nobody fairly close to me has passed away yet, I have lost many, many extremely close friends to situational occurrences, and I think the letter idea as a coping strategy would work even for losses like that too. I might try that.

Thank you for sharing! And again, I am very sorry for you to lose your brother. Stay strong!


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Re: A way to remember your lost loved ones - May 10th 2017, 11:52 AM

I'm sorry to hear about your brother. I really do like the suggestion that your therapist talked about. I feel that there are many things I would like to tell loved ones who passed away but never know how to do this. Thanks for taking the time to write this thread


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Re: A way to remember your lost loved ones - May 10th 2017, 01:37 PM

I am sorry for your loss. Losing your brother must have been really difficult.

Writing a letter, and then letting it go on a balloon is a nice way to remember a lost loved one.

I think I might try this soon. Thanks for sharing.


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Re: A way to remember your lost loved ones - May 10th 2017, 07:56 PM

I think that's such a wonderful idea. Writing letters is a really good way to get the way you feel out in the open, and I'm glad that you've found a way to do this comfortably. I'm sorry about your loss though - I can't imagine what that must have been like. I hope you know that if you ever need anything, you have plenty of people here who are happy to listen.
   
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Re: A way to remember your lost loved ones - May 10th 2017, 08:00 PM

I'm sorry for your loss, it must be difficult losing someone so close to you. I haven't had to deal with that yet and hope I don't have to soon. I think your therapist's idea of writing a letter and attaching it to a balloon is a wonderful way to cope with the loss. Everyone copes with loss differently, and I think this is an unique but brilliant way.

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Re: A way to remember your lost loved ones - May 11th 2017, 05:50 AM

I am sorry for your loss. Losing your brother must have been difficult. I really like the idea your therapist suggested. I have written letters like this in the past but I'd usually just keep it with me. Letting it go in a balloon is actually a great idea. I think I might try this soon. Thank you for sharing this with us.

Also, if you need advice or just need someone to talk to, we are all here for you. You are not alone. <3


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