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I can't believe she did this... - June 1st 2009, 01:52 AM

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I found out less than 12 hours ago my favorite cousin committed suicide.
She overdosed.
She's the only one in my family I actually talk to.
She understands me; she understands what I've been going through.
She helped me to see my family in a new light. A better light.
She has a ten year old son.

I knew she was sick...
I knew her meds hadn't been helping her enough.
(I didn't know she was refusing to take some of them.)
I just... I never realized it was this bad.

I just... am at a loss for words.
I can't believe she would do this.
I can't believe she's gone.

Rest in peace, Laura.
I hope you found the peace you were looking for.

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Re: I can't believe she did this... - June 1st 2009, 05:40 AM

Hi Anna,
First of all I'm very sorry this happened to you.

Right now the best thing to do is keep yourself busy, keeping yourself busy and setting goals will make you feel more better about yourself and not forget about the person but be able to think in a whole positive way.

Another way to help is to keep a personal journal and write your everyday thoughts that are built up inside of you because its never good to hold back all the guilt and pain and sometimes no one wants to say it to someone so it's always best to write in on paper which is what I did and wrote up alot of poems and songs that helped me release my pain, when my friend died.

Remember it's OK to feel mad, sad or wanting to cry. Let your friends and family help you, let them know how you feel. Remember your cusin as a great friend and cherish your memories. You could pray (if you like) that she went to heaven to stay with God and is living a peaceful eternal life. My prayers are with you.


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Re: I can't believe she did this... - June 1st 2009, 07:30 AM

First off, I'm extremely sorry for your loss. I know all to well how hard it is, losing someone to suicide.

When I was 16, my boyfriend took his own life. We were extremely happy. He had problems as well, and I didn't know that he was depressed. It tore me apart. But still, four years later, I'm newly married and still standing.

To cope with his death, I stayed close to my family and friends. They were very supportive. I asked them to push me, push me to get out of the house.

Like Mexico said with the keeping a journal, I did just that. It helped me immensley. Writing was the best form of therapy for me. I still have that diary and I read over it frequently, reminding me that after that, I can overcome anything.

I know you can do this! Take one step at a time! Laura's in a better place now and she would be happy, if you were happy.

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Re: I can't believe she did this... - June 1st 2009, 02:37 PM

Awww darlin' I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how painful that must be for you. I've never lost anyone to suicide. Your cousin is in a better place and I do believe she's watching over you. If you ever need to talk I'll be about. You are not alone okay?


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Re: I can't believe she did this... - June 2nd 2009, 03:40 AM

Thanks for the support and advice, everyone.

The funeral is on Thursday... depending on whether I'm working or not I might go down and spend time with the family on Wednesday night and of course stay for a while on Thursday... I'm not sure if being around everyone who's grieving is going to make it better or worse. It's like... I can't stand how normal everything is, how everyone's talking to me like everything's normal because they just don't know... but I feel like being around everyone who's coping with the same thing might be hard, too. I dunno. Thankfully those of my friends who do know are being very supportive and doing as much as they can to help, even though they're all like ten hours away.
   
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Re: I can't believe she did this... - June 5th 2009, 04:28 PM

hey hun, i'm so sorry for your loss..
but i really pray that you'll be able to stand up again... just know that you can honour her memory by keeping all the good memories you have of her close to your heart...
plus, do remember to take care of yourself and find yourself someone to talk to, coz it's really hard to go through this alone especially...
take care!



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Re: I can't believe she did this... - June 13th 2009, 12:30 AM

I'm really sorry that this happened to you.
Keep your mind off of it by occupying yourself with things you enjoy doing. Remember all the good times and not the bad.
Find someone to talk to, whether a different family member, friend, friend's parent, pet, or someone on TH. Write out all your feelings on paper.

I hope you feel better soon. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.
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Re: I can't believe she did this... - June 14th 2009, 02:53 AM

I am terribly sorry for your loss.
I hope with time you will find the closure you deserve.




   
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