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Not going to Uncle's funeral - September 9th 2009, 11:59 PM

So this morning my uncle passed away. It was a complete surprise to me. He was my dad's brother. Now I live with my mom and don't have much contact with my dads side of the family anymore. Also, me and my father have been out of contact lately due to us just not getting along. Now I knew my uncle and had spent a lot of time with him when I was younger. When I was told about his death, I was at first surprised, then I was just...Nothing. I don't feel sad, or even feel bad. My dad wants me to go to Nevada for his funeral. But I'm not going to go. I know that I should feel worse then I do. and I loved my uncle. But the truth is, I just do not want to go. I've been made to feel like I'm not part of that family anymore. My dad said I have an obligation to go and I'll be a bad person if I don't. But I don't think that's true at all. Why do I have such a huge lack of sympathy for his death and towards how my father feels about it?
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Re: Not going to Uncle's funeral - September 10th 2009, 01:34 AM

If you feel as though attending his funeral would make you feel worse, you have every right to refuse to go to Nevada. I'm sure your uncle would understand. It isn't as if you're being unsympathetic over his death. You loved him very much and that isn't going to change, whether you attend his funeral or not. Your father sounds as if he's trying to guilt you into going to the funeral. Some people just have a hard time at funerals but it wouldn't make you a bad person, darling.

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