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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Exclamation How do you get trought it? - September 21st 2009, 02:28 AM

for anyone whos lost somr special to them how do you deal my moms been gone for 4 yrs and coming up is my dad marking year 2 i just really need some advice for this.
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Re: How do you get trought it? - September 21st 2009, 03:57 PM

Hey Kj,

I am really sorry to hear about this. It is so difficult when you lose someone close to you. I can't even imagine how hard it must be for you to have lost your mum and dad. I guess you have to think about what they would want for you. They wouldn't want you to be sad and hurting. They would want you to be happy and get on with your life. I think they would be really proud of you for keeping going and although they are not with you they will be watching over you. It is meant to get easier in time so keep hanging on in there. If you ever need someone to talk then I am always here for you. Stay strong
   
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Re: How do you get trought it? - September 21st 2009, 05:54 PM

Focus on the good memories and experiences you had with them. Write in a journal how you feel. And always express your emotions. It's okay to cry if you want to. Live life to the fullest for them!



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(Mac) But you're not even human!
(Bloo) But I'm not a kid.

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Re: How do you get trought it? - September 24th 2009, 06:51 PM

Im in a very similar situation. I was raised by my grandparents from 3 weeks old. My grandpa walked me down the aisle August 6th, 2005. June 10th, 2006, my grandma died. November 24th, 2006, my grandpa. I lost my parents that year. Its been three years pretty much for each of them and it hasnt gotten any easy for me. I still burst into tears, I think of them everyday, I miss them and Id give anything for just one more minute with them...for them to meet my children that they had so badly hoped for. Everyone will tell you to just let go, while I believe, you dont have to let go. You need to hold on to them. They will live as long as you keep them alive. And when the days and nights are hard, remember that eventually, you will see them again. You know the hot days and then the hair on your arms or neck stands up for no reason? You get goosebumps? That'll be your parents letting you know they're with you. When you cry, I can bet you they're wiping away your tears.


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I have in my hands two boxes,
Which God gave me to hold.
He said, "Put all your sorrows in the black box,
And all your joys in the gold."

I heeded His words, and in the two boxes,
Both my joys and sorrows I stored,
But though the gold became heavier each day,
The black was as light as before.

With curiosity, I opened the black,
I wanted to find out why,
And I saw, in the base of the box, a hole,
Which my sorrows had fallen out by.

I showed the hole to God, and mused,
"I wonder where my sorrows could be!"
He smiled a gentle smile and said,
"My child, they're all here with me."

I asked God, why He gave me the boxes,
Why the gold and the black with the hole?
"My child, the gold is for you to count your blessings,
The black is for you to let go."


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When rivers cease to flow;
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When stars no longer glow.

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When a ruby's luster fades;
When leaves refuse to fall from boughs,
When trees cannot give shade.

When fields of flowers wither,
When clouds cease making rain;
When mountain ranges cast no shadows,
When prairies cannot grow grain.

When these natural wonders end,
When there's no dusk or dawn;
When all life's miracles cease to be....
...Only then will my hope be gone.


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Re: How do you get trought it? - September 28th 2009, 08:42 PM

hi sweetie, im so sorry about your losses. there really is no right or wrong way of getting over it, and really the truth of the matter is you may never get over it. they were very important in your life and have left a huge imprint on your heart. talk to them, it helps. and its really nice to know they are listening. no matter what, they want you to be happy. make life interesting for them to watch, but dont do anything they would disaprove of. they ARE proud of you, and whenever you miss them talk to them or talk to people including me on this website. PM me anytime!
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