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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Feb. 25,2006 - October 9th 2009, 11:12 AM

its been 3 yrs since it happened but my ex died from killing himself and i was blamed for it. ever since that day i feel like maybe if i had done something different he would still be alive and that it is my fault cause i wasnt there to stop him from doing it. i put myself down and do stupid things to "punish" myself ( i think i spelt that right) and make me feel like its all ok and that i deserve everything i do to myself. i dont know how to get over feeling like this. any advice ??


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Re: Feb. 25,2006 - October 10th 2009, 01:52 AM

I know how you feel. It's awfull. I don't have much advice, because I never quite got over it myself. I had something similar happen. I just hope it helps enough for you to know that there are people (not many), who understand that feeling properly. Anything you wana talk about pm me. I have a flu and don't really have the head for this right now.
   
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Re: Feb. 25,2006 - October 10th 2009, 04:21 PM

aww im sorry u have the flu. that must suck. but, it makes me feel better to kno that someone else knows what its like and atleast said something. thnx


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Re: Feb. 25,2006 - October 10th 2009, 05:30 PM

Hey,

I am really sorry to hear about your loss Being blamed for it is horrible because it wasn't your fault. You can't be to blame for someone elses actions. You can have regrets and wish you had of done things differently but these only hold you back and stop you from moving forward in life. You might not have been there to stop him doing it but that doesn't mean it was your fault. You can't be with someone 24/7 and if they want to do something then they will do it.

You shouldn't punish yourself because honestly you don't deserve that. You deserve loads better and I wish I could make you see that it wasn't your fault. Have you ever talked to anyone about what happened? It might be something to consider if you haven't already.

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Re: Feb. 25,2006 - October 11th 2009, 02:19 PM

Hi. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Death is always a hard and painful thing to go through. However, it is not your fault. I am guessing that your ex probably had some underlying problems that drove him toward suicide. It was not your fault.

Please believe that, because it wasn't. Maybe it would help you if you talked to someone... maybe a friend you trust, or your parents, or your ex's parents, or even a professional.

I hope everything works out for you. Please PM me if you want to talk some more!
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