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uncle - November 10th 2009, 10:59 PM

I don't even know what to do anymore. My uncle was murdered when i was 13. I'm 15 now. It'll be 2 years since it happened this december. I wasn't expecting it at all. obviously. no one was. I miss him so much. i remember finding this out the night b4 the winter dance at my school. i remember laying in my bed crying all night and at school the whole next day. everyone kept staring at me and asking me when my cousin cody, my uncle chris' son would be back in school. i wasn't sure. i wasn't sure of anything. and i thought that by now i would be able to get over it and deal with it better. i still feel so lost though. i still have nights where i can't sleep and all i can think about is him. I just wish he was still here. i luv him so much and i knew that i could always go to him for anything. now, with all the family things going on in my life, i dont have that person to go to anymore. he's just gone. and even after this long, i still dont know what to do =/ it feels like everything in my life is just piling up and i dont feel safe anywhere and i miss having him there 4 me. even family parties are difficult. its just not the same anymore =(
   
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Re: uncle - November 11th 2009, 05:01 PM

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, it is never easy to lose a loved one and losing him to violence is probably very difficult. I know that memories about him and about when you lost him are hard to live through, but just try to focus on all of the good times you shared and not so much on how he left this earth.
Remember that even now he loves you very much, and he wont even really be gone from your heart or your memories. I know how it feels when it has been a long time after a loss and you still aren`t over it, keep in mind that mourning is very hard and two years in the long scheme of things isn`t very long at all. I can`t tell you that the pain will go away but over time the hurt will lessen.
Have you tried to talk to family, friends, or a counselor? That might help, and what I do is write letters to my cousin and stepdad, once they're done I either burn them(kind of thinking that the smoke and what the letter used to say will go up and find them in heaven.....=S) or I keep them in a special box.
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Re: uncle - November 11th 2009, 07:14 PM

Hey Melissa, I've never been in that position you are in exactly but everyone knows how painful pain is. Its been 2 yrs since his passing and all I can say is cry as much as you want, because I know what you feel inside is hard to pass through, so you have to let it all out . The pain will become bearable over time and it will pass, but you will have to be patient.
   
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Re: uncle - November 11th 2009, 07:19 PM

Thanks. =) and yea i've tried to talk to some people about it but it never rly works out. no one in my family ever wants to talk about it. and i've talked to my friends and my boyfriend but i didnt know most of them when this happened so its just kinda ahrd 2 talk 2 them about it. idk y. like i do, but it doesn't feel like it helps. i honestly just dont even know anymore
   
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Re: uncle - November 11th 2009, 07:24 PM

Try not to worry, only time can heal you, you just have to wait.
   
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