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I Can't Feel Sad - January 26th 2009, 12:13 AM

This girl at my school died. She was my grade and she was shot. I didn't know her and had never seen her before. I know people that know her, though.
But I can't feel sad about this. I feel bad that I can't, but I'm just really happy about my life right now because of my boyfriend. It's preventing me from feeling sad about this girl and that just makes me feel guilty.
I don't know what to do

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Re: I Can't Feel Sad - January 26th 2009, 08:11 AM


I don't think there's necessarily a problem with you being unable to feel sad over the loss of a stranger. If we became upset each time a stranger passed away, happiness would be pretty impossible to obtain.

Don't feel guilty. Be there for your friends who knew this girl, and offer to listen should they need to talk. Don't worry that this hasn't gotten you upset--we don't choose our emotions.

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Re: I Can't Feel Sad - January 26th 2009, 05:08 PM

Hey Caroline,
You shouldn't feel guilty for being happy. It is sad when someone close to you dies but you didn't know this person. If you knew them then it might have been different. It is great you are really happy at the moment and hopefully things will stay that way so hold onto that happiness and don't let it go!
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Re: I Can't Feel Sad - January 26th 2009, 05:15 PM

Hey, it's nothing out the ordinary, I didn't feel any remorse when my nan died but I hadn't seen her in years so I guess if you don't talk to the person much or know them that well, it doesn't affect you in a big way.

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Re: I Can't Feel Sad - January 27th 2009, 08:17 AM

Like everyone has said, you don't have to feel guilty about not feeling bad. You didn't know the girl so you really should have to feel distraught or anything. Obviously it's sad when we hear about a death, but like someone mentioned above me, if we were sad for everyone that died, we would never be happy! I'm glad things are going well for you, don't lose that happiness! x

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