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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Unhappy My Grandad Just Lying There. - January 2nd 2010, 07:27 PM

He is literalty days away from passing.

I go to see him and he gets upset and I get upset. Im not going to be seeing him anymore.

Im very upset, I just cry all the time. My mum tells me that out of all the grandkids he has a special place in his heart for me.

This makes me cry.

He was lying there, holding my hand, difficulty speaking, and in pain, but he squeezed my hand and I managed to hear what he struggled to say 'I am sorry.

I know I love him and he knows I loves him. And he loves me aswell.

I better go now, before I start crying.


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Re: My Grandad Just Lying There. - January 2nd 2010, 08:03 PM



I'm really sorry to hear that. It must be really hard for you to go thought. Grieving is a very hard thing to go though, but it's definitely a natural process. It's okay to cry, and feeling like you do is perfectly normal. You can PM or VM me if you ever want to talk.


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Re: My Grandad Just Lying There. - January 2nd 2010, 08:10 PM

Oh Jaymi

Thats so sad, and so tough. I'm so sorry that your having to go through that. Death is such a hard thing to deal with. Your strong Jaymi, and you can make it through this

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Re: My Grandad Just Lying There. - January 2nd 2010, 10:11 PM



Like you said, he knows you love him and you know he loves you. Hang onto that. He'll always be with you, whether you believe in the afterlife or not, I've found people who have left me are always following me around, the little things that remind you of him will slowly become less painful and more...comforting.

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Re: My Grandad Just Lying There. - January 2nd 2010, 10:36 PM

Jaymi,
Remember, it's ok to cry. Crying is a way to let your emotions out and if you hold it all inside you'll just feel worse. I agree with your mom that he must have a special place in his heart for you since he managed to apologize to you through all this pain. I think he was very lucky to have you in his life and vice versa. You are doing great just hang in there. You can always PM me if you need anything at all.

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Re: My Grandad Just Lying There. - January 5th 2010, 08:12 PM

Hello there Jaymi, I hope that this post is not too late. Spend more time with your grandfather, cry if you feel like it because it shows just how much more you love him. Spend time with him and just be there for him.
   
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Re: My Grandad Just Lying There. - January 10th 2010, 03:10 PM

Just an update....he is now having problems breathing. Im really upset.


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Re: My Grandad Just Lying There. - January 10th 2010, 07:19 PM

Jaymi it's ok to be upset. Try to spend a little bit of time with him now if you can handle it. Remember, we are here for you. Hang in there. It'll be ok. Also, whether you realize it or not I think some of your family members may be feeling the same way. Talking to eachother might help both of you feel a bit better. Stay strong.


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Re: My Grandad Just Lying There. - January 10th 2010, 07:58 PM

I'm very sorry. I give you my sympathy. I have lost a Grandfather too. It was hard for me.
I was about 7 and he had cancer, he was sick and had trouble speaking as well and we couldn't understand what he was saying, I remember sitting under the sink in the bathroom just crying in the corner because I was so sad to lose him, and he was very special to all of us. My dad thought of him as a father because he didn't have his bio father around, so my mom's dad was like his father when they got married.
My dad would drink alot and got sick, lost too much weight at some time, but he got better, we got stronger together as a family, so my message here is no matter how grim things seem and how bad things get, things always get so much more better than that, and it takes time to get over the loss of a loved one.
We lost a close friend about a year ago, a dear friend of my dads and the family, we miss him but it gets easier and the pain fades, and once the pain is gone, you just remember the good times. They're not always completely gone, I believe even if they aren't beside us in person, they're always beside us in spirit and they live on in our hearts and memories.
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