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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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I Need Help Today - January 3rd 2010, 04:41 PM

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I hardly ever post here, but today I need it. I marked this just in case.

I don't even know how to explain this, but an aquaintance's brother died 12/30/09. I didn't really know either of them, so I don't really know why this is hitting me so hard. He was only 20. Out of respect for him and his family's privacy, I won't release details, as even the few I know are only rumors. I will say that if the rumors are true it's something that we deal with here all the time.

I guess the worst part is that when I think about it, I deal with it in LH all the time and I realize that he could've been anybody.

In a perfect world, no one would die, and if they had to, they wouldn't be younger than I when they did.


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Re: I Need Help Today - January 3rd 2010, 04:52 PM

Hey there Kate,
Death can be a difficult thing even if you didn't know or barely knew the person. Usually when dealing with similar situations here you kind of just put in the back of your mind that it could never happen to you or anyone you know. But really, it's not true. When that does happen it hits hard and kind of jerks you awake, realizing that it can happen to anyone, and nobody is ready for it. Since you really didn't know the person that well, I think time will help heal. The best advice I can give you is just to be there for his brother, because he is probably having a really hard time. Leave him space though, as I'm sure he will need that also.
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Re: I Need Help Today - January 3rd 2010, 05:00 PM

The wake is today, but I'm not going because it feels like I didn't know them well enough, I haven't spoken to either of them in at least 5 years. It also feels like the only reason I would go would be to find out what happened, but that's as disrespectful as I think you can get.


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Re: I Need Help Today - January 6th 2010, 05:27 PM

Can someone move this to Death and Grieving for me, I might have a better chance at replies thanks.


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Re: I Need Help Today - January 7th 2010, 08:02 AM

Hi Kate
Losing someone can be hard and scary even if you didnt know them that well. I know someone that died, and I was really upset just because I know that someone loved that person and that could have been my friend who was with him when he died.

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Re: I Need Help Today - January 8th 2010, 06:10 PM

Hey Kate, I'm really sorry to hear about what happened. I know that doesn't change anything but it's there all the same. I'm rubbish with words when it comes to losing someone but I just wanted you to know that I'm here if you ever need to talk. You're not on your own with this. Take care
   
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