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My best friend is gone. - January 5th 2010, 08:54 PM

A month ago, my best friend disappeared. Suicide.
I can't handle it. I pray to God all the time to give me a sign she's okay now. I pray for her family to handle it well. But I'm so upset. No one else understands. I can't even talk to my mom about it. She used to cut too and she was so close to stopping, because of me. And now I feel like it's my fault she's gone. I feel stupid, why couldn't I have helped her more? Now she's dead and I can never talk to her again.


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Re: My best friend is gone. - January 6th 2010, 03:15 PM

A friend of mine committed suicide in february. It was the hardest thing to ever deal with. Like your friend, she was a cutter etc. But to everyone else she came across happy, cheerful, like she didn't have a care in the world. Then one night I got a phonecall explaining what she did to herself. What you are feeling is completely normal - grief. You blame your self and in ways feel angry, but the truth is, it wasn't your fault. You're upset because you friend is has died, but honestly, there probably wasn't anything you could do! Your friend had her reasons, and sometimes when people commit suicide, it's sectretive - they don't let anyone know when or where or how they are going to do it.

Give it time, and you'll come to terms with her death - it won't always feel this bad. Hope this helps. PM me any time if you want to talk x


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Re: My best friend is gone. - January 6th 2010, 07:16 PM

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A friend of mine committed suicide in february. It was the hardest thing to ever deal with. Like your friend, she was a cutter etc. But to everyone else she came across happy, cheerful, like she didn't have a care in the world. Then one night I got a phonecall explaining what she did to herself. What you are feeling is completely normal - grief. You blame your self and in ways feel angry, but the truth is, it wasn't your fault. You're upset because you friend is has died, but honestly, there probably wasn't anything you could do! Your friend had her reasons, and sometimes when people commit suicide, it's sectretive - they don't let anyone know when or where or how they are going to do it.

Give it time, and you'll come to terms with her death - it won't always feel this bad. Hope this helps. PM me any time if you want to talk x
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Re: My best friend is gone. - January 7th 2010, 07:57 AM

Aw i am so so so sorry to hear about that.
Its understandable that you are finding it hard. I know I would find it very very very hard. And your feeling of guilt is normal, it is part of the grieving process. But you have to remember, what's done is done and it was not your fault. She was obviously very sad and now shes in a happier place with no more worries that she obviously faced. Im sure you helped her as much as you could. And you can always talk to her, its just that you can't see her and she won't reply back. But she knows your missing her.

I hope you start feeling better soon, one day you will be able to accept her death, i'm not saying you will forget about her, but you will just be able to remember all the happy times with her and these happy feelings will take over the sad ones! Give it time!
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