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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Need a little help. - March 6th 2010, 05:44 AM

Hi everyone, I dont really know why im posting this online but I just don't know what to do I feel so alone and lost.

I'm pretty youn
g and I recently lost my father, I held him in my arms as he passed away. I've gone to psychology and all of that but it isn't any help. I have friends and family but I just want to be alone, I don't really know why, I see that they are here for me but I don't want them.

I don't see the point anymore I use to jump out of bed excited to start the day but now I just lay in bed, not wantin
g to do anything. All that helps is smoking pot or getting very drunk. I have tried emotional releases like sex but I just feel worse after wards for doing things that are not me.

All I want is him back, nothin
g more I don't know what to do, my music is the only thing keeping me going
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Re: Need a little help. - March 6th 2010, 05:14 PM

Hi hun,
I know what you are going through. I recently lost my dad too. I have been to psychiatrists and all that too. I know they don't work for me either.
But, I have not resorted to drugs or alcohol, and I haven't had sex either. So I really can't help you there...but I do know that drugs and alcohol only make it worse in the long run. Music is a great way to keep you sane! It keeps me sane too! That, and my friends. If you ever need to talk to anybody about what's going on! You can always talk to me! PM me anytime hun!

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Re: Need a little help. - March 7th 2010, 02:33 AM

Aww honey I'm so sorry. I know you want to be alone and things feel like they'll never get better and this is a way of grieving. I know you're feeling very sad and upset but you are definitely not alone, and if you ever just need a friend, someone to talk to and to listen, I'm here anytime. I know things will eventually get better. I know it hurts to lose someone you love.
The way I see it, one day when we pass over, we see the people we lost again, so I look forward to that. He isn't with you in person anymore, but is with you in spirit and memory, and lives on in your heart. The pain will eventually stop, it just will take some time.
*Hugs* Hang in there hun, remember we're here for you!
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Re: Need a little help. - March 7th 2010, 03:21 AM

I totally understand! As natural as death is, as much as we all know it will happen to us one day, it hurts more than just about anything! When I lost both of my grandmothers in the same year I was completely devastated! Take some time alone if you need to! The only way you are going to feel better is if you take time to grieve! I won't lie to you; the next few months or so are going to be tough. After a while though, you'll feel better. The sadness won't be completely gone, but the time comes when you automatically suppress it and you'll move on.

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Re: Need a little help. - March 9th 2010, 11:13 PM

I know how you feel. I didn't loose my dad but I lost someone who was just like a mother to me last month. I also lost my grandma in January and my aunt last October. I have been the same way, I want to be alone and just stay to myself. I am still having an incredibly hard time, but I feel like some how thing will get better. You just need to have hope and faith. Everyone tells me that only time heals, but no matter how much time passes you will always miss that person; it just won't hurt as bad. I know reaching out for help is really hard, but you did the right thing. Have you thought about maybe talking to your doctor about antidepressent pills? I am on them right now and they seem to be helping. Please feel free to PM me anytime. I love to talk to people and try to help them.

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Re: Need a little help. - March 9th 2010, 11:27 PM

just remember your dad is watching over you and wouldnt want you to do anything to yourself you may regret. if you feel alone, talk to him cause he is listening. PM me if you need anything. thinking of you and your family. sorry for your loss. lost my best friends mom this weekend, I know how you're feeling.
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Re: Need a little help. - March 10th 2010, 11:14 PM

No offense to the posters who have lost someone close, but not their dads... it really isn't the same. I know it's really hard, and the grieving is hard too. But moms and dads aren't the same, and it really depends on your relationship with the person. For me, my dad was a symbol of protection, and I always knew he would be there to protect me if something bad happened. But now he is gone. I know it wouldn't be the same if I lost my mother instead. My mother...is well my mother. I've never saw her the same as I saw my dad. I'd feel sort of lost in who to go to, and who to hang out with and talk to about stuff...instead of feeling unsafe and unprotected. So basically what I am getting at is that it isn't the same and you don't know how it truely feels. but you do know how it feels to lose someone you love. and there are some feelings that are the same when losing a parent, it just depends on what relationship you had with them.

(sorry if i offended anyone!!)

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