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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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R.I.P baby - April 10th 2010, 02:36 PM

I was 3 months pregnant when I miscarried my baby. I wasn't sure whether it was a boy or girl. But I had both names picked out, Emmalin for a girl and Aidyen for a boy. I loved the baby and I was sure I was going to be a great mommy. I miss everything about being pregnant and since I lost the baby I slipped back into depression. It sucks, and I got blamed for the loss of my baby. I think it could be my fault. IDK. =/ I just know that I have dreams of both babies (I guess they're fantasies) and I see them growing up as I sleep. IDK... is this normal?

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Re: R.I.P baby - April 10th 2010, 03:36 PM

It is normal. I'm so so sorry for your loss. I know it's not easy. But when the time is right you WILL have a baby. Open up to your family and friends and this time. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm only a PM away [:



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Re: R.I.P baby - April 10th 2010, 03:46 PM

I'm sorry to hear this. You're only 16 though, your womb might not have been big enough to support a child. A lot of people mostly young moms struggle with the miscarriage of a child. Try again when you're older. Good luck, and PM me anytime



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Re: R.I.P baby - April 10th 2010, 06:43 PM

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. I know it must be tough - I've never had that experience of carrying a child, but I understand a mother forms a very strong bond with their baby before they're even born. You are completely normal for feeling this way .. it's part of the grieving process. As someone else said, talk to your family about your feelings if you can, or a close friend, or maybe even a medical professional if you feel you need to. There's lots of time to try in the future for another baby. I'm always here to talk if you need to, feel free to PM (:

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Re: R.I.P baby - April 11th 2010, 04:31 PM

Thank you everyone. I just needed to put it out there about how I feel. I can't really talk to anyone else about it because my family doesn't know and my friends all think I'm crazy for even caring. They were like "hey it's a free abortion". Which got me angry. I know I have time to have a baby. It's just this one was my first. It'll never be forgotten.


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Re: R.I.P baby - April 11th 2010, 05:43 PM

Hey there hun, what you're feeling is completely normal. I have had many miscarriages and last February, lost a little girl at 15 weeks, Alivia Hope, who I gave birth to and had cremated. Its a very hard journey to go through, but you're not alone in it, and it is NOT your fault in anyway. If you would like, take a look at Alivias website, http://MissingAlivia.webs.com

To The Child In My Heart

O, precious, tiny, sweet little one
You will always be to me
So perfect, pure and innocent,
Just as you were meant to be.
We dreamed of you and of your life
And all that it would be
We waited and longed for you to come
And join our family.
We never had a chance to play,
To laugh, to rock, to wiggle.
We longed to hold you,
And listen to you giggle.
But now you're gone...but yet you're here.
We sense you everywhere.
You are our sorrow and our joy.
There's love in every tear.
Just know our love goes deep and strong.
We'll forget you never-
The child we had, but never had,
And yet will have forever.
   
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Re: R.I.P baby - April 11th 2010, 10:26 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. I looked over that website and it is beautiful. I wanna try and honor my daughter/son the same way. I believe it was a girl because I always see a little girl in my dreams. Emmalin Madyson would have been her name. I always think about her. Alivia is a very beautiful name by the way.
My prayers reach out to you. ♥


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Re: R.I.P baby - April 12th 2010, 04:54 AM

Thank you. It's definitely a nice way to honor your baby. That's what I did with my miscarriages, I went with the gender I felt they were in my heart and named them. I have also made the little mini Christmas stockings for each of my babies, each has an angel pin with a pregnancy and infant loss ribbon. The pins were at the dollar store and the ribbon is cheap too, very easy to make and a nice way to have the babies there during Christmas. There are a lot of places to make websites or webpages for free. I also have over 250 poems if you're interested, I could PM you with a link to ownload the zipped folder with all of them.
   
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Re: R.I.P baby - April 13th 2010, 12:07 AM

I am extremely interested. I want to remember my baby forever. And honor her memory. She'll always be with me<3.


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April 13th 2010, 12:37 PM

hey there girl!
im so sorry this happened to you. i lost my baby boy Kyi, before he was even born. i think about him and celebrate his birthdays, i feel like somehow i got to know him, even though he didnt get much of a chance its not easy. but if you celebrate it and think of it in somewhat of a blessing (as a child would be), then its easier. that works for me. i hope ive made some sense here for you. good luck!
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Hey there hun, what you're feeling is completely normal. I have had many miscarriages and last February, lost a little girl at 15 weeks, Alivia Hope, who I gave birth to and had cremated. Its a very hard journey to go through, but you're not alone in it, and it is NOT your fault in anyway. If you would like, take a look at Alivias website, http://MissingAlivia.webs.com

To The Child In My Heart

O, precious, tiny, sweet little one
You will always be to me
So perfect, pure and innocent,
Just as you were meant to be.
We dreamed of you and of your life
And all that it would be
We waited and longed for you to come
And join our family.
We never had a chance to play,
To laugh, to rock, to wiggle.
We longed to hold you,
And listen to you giggle.
But now you're gone...but yet you're here.
We sense you everywhere.
You are our sorrow and our joy.
There's love in every tear.
Just know our love goes deep and strong.
We'll forget you never-
The child we had, but never had,
And yet will have forever.
i love your poem. its so good. i wrote poems about my son too.

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Re: R.I.P baby - April 13th 2010, 05:37 PM

Just wanted to point out- That poem is beautiful.




   
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Re: R.I.P baby - April 13th 2010, 06:23 PM

I must've lost some poems along the way, I only have 244 of them. But I have zipped them up for you. Here's the link. It's zipped in a normal regular zip folder through windows. Hope it works okay for you. I had to figure out how to change all the files from microsoft word to wordpad, or I would've had them to you sooner! I hope you are doing okay, please let me know if you need anything else!

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Adelina, I'm so sorry for your loss. This is actually not my own poem. I just have a large collection of poems that I've found online that I can relate to. In a way, you do get to know that baby. He was growing inside you, he was part of you. He will always be your baby and you will always be his mother. Nothing, not even time, can change that.
   
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Re: R.I.P baby - April 13th 2010, 11:14 PM

Thank you so much Alicia! And Adelina, I'm sorry for your loss as well. You got to know your baby because he was in you:; and he was apart of you. <3


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Re: R.I.P baby - April 13th 2010, 11:21 PM

I can realate to this so much I lost a child in January, I have no idea if it was a boy of a girl, i was ony 6 weeks, so i guess as some people say it was a easy miscarriage...

That poem is beautiful btw.

And sorry for all poster's loss.

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Re: R.I.P baby - April 14th 2010, 12:12 AM

No problem, I love to share the poetry I've collected. There might be a couple that don't fit in, I had all my poetry in a single folder.

India, no miscarriage is an easy miscarriage! It was still a baby, simple as that. Don't let anyone tell you differently!
   
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Re: R.I.P baby - April 16th 2010, 06:01 AM

Hey, sweetie,
hang in there, ok? I'm really sorry about your loss, but it will be ok. You WILL be a great mommy someday. If you want to talk, you know what to do (PM me) (hug)


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Re: R.I.P baby - April 16th 2010, 09:25 PM

Your still a mommy India, no matter how far along you were, I promise. ♥ & thanks Kira.


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