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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Unhappy How to get over it. - April 11th 2010, 05:03 AM

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Well, I was pretty close to a member on the site, aaron_1.

On the 21st February 2010, aaron_1 passed away from a drug overdose.

Yet, I'm still not over. He was 17...my age.

He left behind a fiancee and now twins. His fiancee gave birth to twins on the 8th of April 2010 and he couldn't be there for their birth.

How can I get over it?

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Re: How to get over it. - April 11th 2010, 03:15 PM

What you are feeling is normal. Grieving can be a very long process especially when you are close with the person you lost and the circumstances are very tragic indeed.

You have my condolences, and my condolences to the family as well.

Be grateful that at least there is a part of him that will remain in the world, his biological children. His fiancee will need all of the support she can get right now.
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Re: How to get over it. - April 11th 2010, 06:10 PM

In my personal experience, death isnt something you get over, rather something you learn to live with. With time, the pain will lessen. You wont forget about it and it will always cause some heart ache, but it will get better. I still get sad remembering my friend Matt who passed away when I was 10, he was 9. 15 years ago.
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Re: How to get over it. - April 12th 2010, 01:47 PM

I am so sorry to hear about your loss Rianna. I don't think it is about getting over it. It is about learning to deal with it and being able to look back at your friend and remember the positive memories. It is so sad though and loads to deal with when something like this happens. It might help to try something like writing about how you feel. Don't hold it all inside because that will only make you feel worse. Stay strong
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Re: How to get over it. - April 12th 2010, 02:41 PM

I'm really sorry for your loss. It's especially hard losing someone who has been fighting with an addiction. Unfortunately, there is not simple and easy way to 'get over' a death. Like Alicia said, we never really get over death. Yes, we move on. But the person we've lost will never be replaced, we merely learn to live without them. To live differently without having them in your life. The grieving process is different for everyone and it shouldn't be rushed. Take time for yourself, to reflect on the memories you have with Aaron. Write, cry, exercise, whatever makes you feel better. It hasn't been a long time since your friend passed, so the feelings you have are completely normal.

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Re: How to get over it. - April 20th 2010, 04:11 PM

first off i want to send my condolences for you, his fiancee, and his family. there are some ways to get over it. stop thinking of the past and try to think of the future.it will take a long time to recover the loss since he just left a family that he would care for. again im very sorry for the loss.
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