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Normal? - April 12th 2010, 07:42 PM

My grandfather died about two weeks ago . I went up to his funeral in Maine and I did love him very much. He was such a cheer man always happy and making me laugh. But at the wake and the funeral, I did not feel a damn thing. No sadness, No anger, nothing. Is that normal. Like its been 2 weeks shouldn't I be feeling some sort of emotion to my own grandfather dying?

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Re: Normal? - April 12th 2010, 11:01 PM

Emotions will come. It's completely normal to feel numb with the loss of someone who meant a lot to you. Don't feel bad that you don't feel much right now, in time, it will come and you will deal with it then. I'm sorry for the loss of your grandpa.
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Re: Normal? - April 14th 2010, 05:34 AM

You really cant rush it.
I know when my grandmother died I felt like my world was crashing.
I cried alot and I still do sometimes.
But for me the funeral and being there when she died now is something I can hardly remember.
I remember it as if I were watching a movie.
I was in shock the whole time but I was still able to feel. Maybe your just not ready yet. Just try to let the emotions come on their own.

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Re: Normal? - April 14th 2010, 01:29 PM

I think one of the most difficult things about losing someone that you care about is not knowing how you're 'supposed' to feel, but to be honest there isn't a right or wrong way to feel. However you do feel, or even if you're not feeling anything other than numbness is ok. It's how you do actually feel that is important. Allow yourself to feel, or even not to feel. Everyone deals with loss differently but it's important that you have support through your grieving process whether that's from people around you or on here, you're not alone.
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Re: Normal? - April 14th 2010, 02:23 PM

There is no right or wrong way to deal with death, your emotions are perfectly normal. Emotions are strange things and they sometimes come when we least expect them. As long as you allow yourself to deal with them appropriately when they do come up (and they eventually will) then you'll be fine.

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Re: Normal? - April 15th 2010, 01:16 PM

A lot of people react different ways to things. My uncle recently passed, and I didn't go to the funeral or anything, and I'm not really upset about it. It probably hasn't hit you yet, and you still think that hes there etc. It may eventually hit you at some point. Deaths usually do. But keep strong, you can get through this. I'm always here if you need me.


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Re: Normal? - April 17th 2010, 07:03 PM

It can take time to sink in. But the important thing is not to block it out and to allow yourself to grieve because at some point you are going to have to deal with it. If you ever want to chat then I am always here. Stay strong.
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