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Unhappy :'-( She miscarried... - May 8th 2010, 07:10 PM

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A couple days ago, I posted about my friend who was going to find out if she was for sure pregnant...

Yesterday she was supposed to go to Planned Parenthood to get a more official test. I was texting her to let her know I could go with her if she wanted because my track meet was canceled, but my Spanish teacher caught me and took my phone away. When I got it back before my last class, I got a message from her saying she was in the Emergency Room. I told Lindsay right away (wolfsvalentine, she's a good friend of hers too, and sits by us both in Physics), and we both got a little scared. Then I got a text from her towards the end of the hour saying "I lost it..."

As soon as school ended, I got Lindsay to drive me to the dad's house (that's where she was) and spent the afternoon with her trying my best to comfort her...

I've never felt this sad for someone in my life, and I can't even begin to imagine how horrible she feels... she blames herself and told me last night that the baby was the only reason she would get up in the morning. She's coming over to my house after work today, and I really don't know what kind of shape she's gonna be in...

Does anyone know how I can help her through this?

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Re: :'-( She miscarried... - May 8th 2010, 08:42 PM

That really sucks, i send my condolences to her

The best thing to do is be there for her at this difficult time. She will know that there is a Shoulder to cry on when she needs it.

Hope this helps
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Re: :'-( She miscarried... - May 8th 2010, 10:57 PM

Wow. That is really hard.

I agree with ThrashAttack. The best thing you can do is be there. Help her understand it's not her fault, no matter how guilty she may feel. In fact, since she told you that the baby was the only reason she would get up in the morning, you may want to suggest she see a counselor to help her deal with her depression and grief.

I hope everything gets better.
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Re: :'-( She miscarried... - May 9th 2010, 12:54 AM

I'm so incredibly sorry about this... I know it has to be extremely hard on you, your friend, and the father of the baby. The best thing you can do is just be there for your friend. Hug her when she cries, tell her everything's going to turn out alright.. I know that it would mean a whole lot to her.

Once again, I'm so, so sorry about what happened.

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Re: :'-( She miscarried... - May 9th 2010, 08:21 AM

I'm sorry to hear about this. The best thing you and your friends can do for her, is to let her know that you care about her and are there for her. Offer to talk with her about it, if she would like to. Don't rush her, she will talk when she's ready.

Remember to take care of yourself too.

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Re: :'-( She miscarried... - May 10th 2010, 05:48 PM

I'm so so so sorry to hear about this.
The best thing you can do is be there for her. Support her and help.
Also, a counselor might help her some as well.
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Re: :'-( She miscarried... - May 10th 2010, 08:37 PM

I'm sorry to hear about this as well.
Just be there for her and show her your support, it's what she needs right now, as this must be a difficult time for her. As Kitty has said maybe seeing a counselor or talking to someone may help her too.

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